straight female masturbating to lesbian sites

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  1. pika74

    pika74 New Member

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    Hi,
    I'm a married woman. When my husband is away (or in another room), I'll go on hardcore lesbian sites and masturbate to pics or movies - is that normal? I'll usually go on sites like URL REMOVED and then the surfing begins. Once my hb caught me doing it (i.e. surfing, not masturbating - I'd finished by the time he came in) and got REAL mad -he's pretty conservative (and so am I)but aren't guys supposed to be turned on by something like this? What d'yall think?
     
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    Wish my wife would do it.
    have you discussed it with hubby.
    it may turn him on if you ask to do it while he watches
    or perhaps he could masturbate watching you while you watch
    the monitor,;)
     
  3. Thorn

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    LOL! It's usually the other way around, the woman catching the man looking at porn and getting mad.

    It could be that he feels a little threatened by finding you looking at porn, like maybe he isn't providing all that you need and want? You could try to reassure him that it's just you exploring your sexuality. And like catfish said, he may want to join in the fun with you. Maybe, maybe not?

    In any case it's best to be open and honest with him about it. Good luck!
     
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    My wife is extremely conservative - somewhere to the right of Ann Coulter and Jerry Falwell, ha, ha - so I seriously doubt that she will ever surf for porn sites, however, if she ever did, I would much rather her be looking at lesbian sites than at male-female or all male sites. First, I would feel jealous of the guys she would be looing at in male-female or all male sites (that my seem hypocritical of me, however, when I have seen pornography, I pretend that it is my wife and me - in the male/female kind - and think about what it would be like to do that with my wife). Secondly, while I never look at all male sites (sorry, don't mean to be homophobic, however, all male sites do NOTHING whatsoever for me except make me think "EWWWW! YUCK!!"), when I have seen heterosexual sites (male-female), they are just done, in my opinion, in a manner which is not sensitive to the women and is just kind of "rude and crude". The lesbian pornography is just usually so much more sensual and realistic so it seems to me usually. When a woman is shown "doing another woman", it just seems to me more true to what it really takes to properly make love to a woman. I guess I am just not one of those "fuck that bitch" guys and want to make good love to a woman. Anyway, if I thought my wife was looking at porn, instead of getting upset, I would calmly ask her why and ask if we could look at it together instead of apart from each other.
     
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    Pika,
    read the bottom line of H H,s post
    then discuss it with the wife.
     
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    Hey Big, Pika is the wife. :ugh
     
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    OK, OK discuss it with the Hubby.
     
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    The URL of that website has been removed. Sounds too much like spam.
     
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    Gosh, I didn't know that Ryan actually read the posts! I'm impressed!
     
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    Of course I do :p
     
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    Maybe he's afraid that you're turning into a lesbian, though I think the jealousy explanation is the most likely. Or maybe he's anti-gay and your newly discovered inclination is morally reprehensible to him? Lots of possibilities there...I would discuss it with him.

    I love most kinds of porn, including lesbian, and would be extremely disappointed if a guy wasn't cool with that. Having said that, I wouldn't look at it when he was around if I knew it upset him. (And don't forget to erase your history and temporary files!)
     
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    A few things...

    First off, there is nothing wrong with what you're doing. You're masturbation habbits are part of your individual sexuality as a woman.

    Anyways, I'd like to know your husband's reasoning for becoming angry with you. Is he insecure in some way? Angered that you did it behind his back? Had a past experience with a similar issue? All could explain such a response. Just wondering what his reasoning is.

    As far as your masturbation goes, as long as you still feel comfortable, I would continue doing what you've been doing. As long as it helps you to get more in touch with your body and reach climax, that all that counts. However, if your husband's response has troubled you, why not approach him on it and see what he says?

    -Emt
     
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