Staying Interested in sex

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  1. gettingitin

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    Ok i know it sounds stupid but have anyone had issues staying interested in sex, have it became so repetitive for u. I mean i done done some freaky stuff in my time and just a naked body dont turn me on breast all that stuff just dont butts nah. Now sometimes how wet she might be will get me up there but my question have u ever been having sex and just loose intrest just seem like been down this road before. I tend to loose my attention and it goes somewhere else god knows dont let the tv be on ill be listening to it or just staring at something in the room.. Does this happen. Even porn dont intrest me anymore just same ole, same ole.
     
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    God God your grammar made me cringe while reading that! >.<

    To answer your question, no. Sex has never gotten uninteresting to me. I've gotten distracted before, but never uninterested.
     
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    Nope, never lost interest in sex, if anything my taste for it has heightened!
     
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    Hey Mettimer i know u the Mod but i aint writing no dang Novel here. U got the ideal didnt u. I just type it how it roles off my head, I dont check for grammer,spelling, non of that. Kapish!!!!
     
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    Ok have u ever got stuck on one thing like Oral sex. To where the only way u would get hard is if she blows on it. To me its like guys who jack off alot they get so use to it the only way they can come is jacking off. Its like when u watching some porno and this girl is giving what looks like great oral but they have to jack off to cum. Thats why i try to refrain from it for that reason i get stuck on things if i get to much or do it to much, It will be the only way to turn me on.
     
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    I know what you mean, where guys jack off so much that is the only way they can get come.

    To be honest, I find seeing a blow job on a porno boring. I really dont know why. I tend to fast forward at that part.

    Maybe in past relationships, if an ex would go down on me and he would really suck to hard like he was trying to cyphon petrol out of the tank, that would be off putting.

    Have you tried abstaining for a while, usually that should get a person interested in it again- sending dirty text messages and emails in the absence of sex?
     
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    Thats what im gong threw right now.
     
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    You could have a medical condition of some sort. Depression causes a decrease in sexual desire. Just to name one..maybe a trip to the doctor could help you out.
     
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    It has nothing to do with being a mod. Being on an adult forum I generally expect that someone would take time to make themselves sound like one.

    It's actually spelled capisci.
     
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    Jesus.....if you're gonna try to sound like an Italian tough guy, at least spell the fucking word right.
     
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    Not at all. Maybe if all you are interested in is sex, not intimacy and/or love, that may be true. But for over 40 years our so-so "vanilla sex" has not been boring to me and I miss not having that.
     
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    Well damn i hit Google to see did i spell it right. Guess i didnt pay attention to it to much.
     
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    It's ok. You speel it liike ya wan, and I jus member whar ya came from.
     
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    I'm sorry..this just makes me :lol
     
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    Maverick u a ass but funny.lmao
     
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    I cringe at the spelling and lack of grammar, but I understand the sentiment. I think when some of us push the boundaries when we were able to, vanilla sex isn't sufficiently satisfying for the long-haul. I certainly feel that way, which is why I spice up my normal sex life with an additional sex life, and I'm glad I can do that.

    This doesn't mean I don't desire vanilla sex, indeed, I have a very high sex drive (the other night it had been two days and I had a night full of intense erotic dreams, which isn't bad for a man my age). The sex I had on that third day was most welcome and enjoyable, but that still doesn't stop me wanting something better / different / more.

    Is this where the OP is coming from? If so, then my early days of casual sex and group sex of various gender mixes is either coming back to haunt me (I don't think so), or I'm a very adventurous man in many ways, and sex is one of those adventures (I think this is the reason).
     
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    I do not have a problem staying interested in sex, but I am fortunate to have married a woman who also enjoys sex, and wants me to be as creative as possible. While we have been monogamous, I believe our overall relationship is what has kept the sex interesting. Our marriage suffered when we did not make sex a priority, but once we got back on track things took off again like a rocket, and we are still enjoying our "sexual creativity". Perhaps a lot has to do with initiating sexual emotions and feelings in creative ways outside of the bedroom, so that by the time we get there we cannot wait to physically enjoy each other. :)
     
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    I started to dislike sex or a while, but that was because it had become painful, a medical issue which has now been addressed.

    Since then I crave intimacy, I love being so close to him, eeling his arms around me, his cock inside me....
     
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    sometimes if it doesn't feel good or seems too routine without any passion.