Staying hard

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  1. blue_eyes18

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    I searched the threads to see if perhaps this issue might have been raised or answered. The last few times I've had sex, I've noticed that I've had trouble staying erect much to mine and my present partner's disappointment (luckily these were one night stands). I've never had this issue before and I am only 31 years old, so I consider myself too young to be labeled as having ED. I did put on a good deal of weight over several years, which I am working on losing. I have a theory, far fetched as it might be, that an increased weight might have an effect on maintaining. Anyone ever heard of that being the case? Any help or insights would be appreciated.
     
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    Being a woman I probably can't advise but I would think that extra weight would have an effect on your libido as well as your health. Also could it be that the one nighters are putting you off as opposed to being in a relationship? Xx
     
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    Xenia, I thought that too. What's really odd is the reason I had those one night stands is because I was really horny and I recently stopped dating.
     
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    General and over all health can and do affect this. Not to mention stress in everyday life, and more importantly stress over performance anxiety itself, which can lead to a revolving door type problem as follows:

    It's a tough act to deal with if you begin having problems like this, because then you start worrying about them, and this causes more stress/anxiety leading into sex, which in turn makes it tough to get it up and keep it up, on, and on, in a viscous cycle.

    I'm 42 and now have few problems, but I must admit that at times "it's just not what it used to be" , and every once in a while I'm just plain tired or maybe too much alcohol to truly perform.

    I've also been through the revolving scenario I described above a few years ago and that was really tough. I dropped about 25 lbs and got into decent shape for my age. I try not to drink too much when I know we're going to play and have managed to over come that hump for the majority of the time.

    I told the wife just last week after I had a brief "problem" one night that if this starts happening regularly I'm going to see the doctor and ask for a prescription for viagra or other. Sex is too damned good and a huge part of our lives, I'm not going down without a fight.
     
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    Well alcohol really isn't an issue for me as I really don't drink much anymore unless I'm maybe having a beer with some buddies from work. Never did think about the stress factor. I have had quite a bit of it at work recently. But I do thank you both for the advice/insights. I am starting to get in better shape though.
     
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    A flagging willie coupled with excess is often the signs of something more sinister with general health.
    Dude you need to get checked out for DM type 2, and blood pressure issues and if nothing comes up then perhaps have an androgen index blood test. You do not mention in your profile if you are a smoker but if you are then this is cause for greater alarm.
     
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    Nope bush, I gave up smoking 8 years ago. I've never had blood pressure issues even with my weight as it is. I've been tested for diabetes (if that is what you are referring to as a DM) and came back negative (although it does run in my family). Not sure what you mean by excess either.