squirting?...And being "large"?

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  1. Pride

    Pride New Member

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    Hmm i dont know. How common is it in reality that women squirt?...And how common is it that the man outlast the women?

    Today she like seriously squirted like i couldnt believe....a lot came and it went quite a distance.....not like porn squirt she didnt "gush" but still from what i hear that isnt all too common. And we have had sex several times before.

    But i always seem to outlast her as well. Which i always thought the women would always do that. Like im ready to go still 5 min after we are done. And i cum. But i can keep going and it can take FOREVER for me to come again like more into the hour range...the first time takes bout 15-20 min usually.

    She is my first and i am not hers. She has had i think 2 other partners and several sessions with them. So i am still getitng her to try what are "new" positions with me. And we tried where its like her sitting on the couch or in this case futon. and well i dont know how to explain it but its nothing new to most people im sure. Anyways it was a position where i could get extra deep. And she said it hurts and we changed pos. (i thought it was uncomfortable) so i was like ok. And she LOVES to be on top really gets off on it. Which funny thing is. I enjoy it but i cant get off on it. (i dont understand why though)

    But afterwards i ask her why it hurt cuz she was saying she was sore. And she goes "becuz ur fucking huge" which i laughed cuz i disagree. And says its painful at times but feels so good. Which i dont understand either how that can be.


    so basically im just looking for information.
     
  2. cbrmale

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    I think you're looking to do something other than gather information, and it's hard to read what you're asking.

    First up it's not common for women to squirt; I've had a couple in my past. But it's all to do with the woman, because what I did with the women who squirted was pretty much the same as what I did with the women who didn't squirt. So it's about a woman getting into the moment and letting herself go with what her partner is doing to her. One lady squirted during g-spot stimulation far enough to wet me up to my wrist, the other lady dribbled a fairly large pool of come.

    As to sexual duration, I think you're trying to last too long. Recently (as in last week), surveys published in Australia showed women regard the ideal intercourse time as between 7 to 13 minutes, and an acceptable time as between 3 to 7 minutes. Beyond 13 minutes, it gets (a) boring and (b) sore for her. You're first time of 15 to 20 minutes is probably too long. I have sex with my wife three or four times a week, and if I go much beyond 10 minutes we both get sore, although I may well have a thicker penis than you. Nonetheless, the survey results correlate with my experience of many lovers, and (if you can remember the stories of your childhood years) just right beats too hot or too cold.

    I'm not sure what you mean by outlast - take longer to come I am guessing. The answer is (again) that it depends on the woman. I have to slow my wife down, I read the tension in her legs and hold her on the peak of coming for as long as I can. Even then, she rarely takes more than a couple of minutes of oral to orgasm. My mistress used to take longer (about ten minutes) with a similar technique, and she was too sensitive to come again for the rest of the day. A third lover in the same period of time took more than half-an-hour of combined oral and g-spot to come, and she was the one who wet the sheet. Worlds longest orgasm, I felt her contractions against my finger for more than 30 seconds, maybe closer to a minute.

    Does that answer your question? The answer is there is no answer, and it's all about how our women respond to the stimulation that we men provide.
     
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    well u pretty much got what i meant. But as far as me trying to take too long. I dont really TRY anything. Thats just how it is. and she seems to enjoy it as when we are doing it she will get into it quite a bit even 20-25 min in and be tell me "harder" even pumping herself. for stimulation.


    As far as outlasting her i think that may be a physical stamina thing over anything else.
     
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    Well, just remember it's not a contest. Sex is something you give, not get. Put getting her off first and yourself second. If you treat her right in the bedroom AND outside the bedroom, she'll almost always want to do you!

    I know you're new at this...try giving her some oral. Go look up the old thread entitled "How to eat pussy".

    BD
     
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    7 to 13 minutes? Are you nuts? Where did they come up with that survey? I'm guessing they surveyed only women who could live without sex and have never really enjoyed it LOL.

    If I get less than half hour I get cranky. Our intercourse usually takes 1 to 2 hours. If your lady is getting bored than your not doing something right. ;)
     
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    I'm with CBRMale on this one.
    Women that I have been with rarely like to go over half an hour.
    It might have something to do with that pesky knocking at the door and that gruff voice saying "Come on...time's up." :p:lol (If only I had more money :eyes)

    But seriously I don't think (I do not know this for sure) many men or women could last the 1 to 2 hours of straight fucking. Foreplay included, sure, but straight fucking...nahhhh. I'm not saying that there aren't any, I just think that the type of couple that can shag non stop for hours are in the minority.

    Again, I stress that this is not something I have studied, so there is a likelihood that I am wrong :eek: :p
     
  7. Dreama

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    Well, the actual intercourse doesn't last long with us, about 10-20 minutes, but we have foreplay for an hour, sometimes more most of the time. I think that counts.....
     
  8. Fliteskates

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    Since this seems to be her fav. position you gotta learn to cum with her on top.

    When she is done cumming, she will most likely try to ride you until you cum.

    Her knees/legs will get sore if she stays on top for too long... remember, she can't tell what feels best for you, so you gotta show her. So you need to control the action and grab her hips and move her how it feels best for you... just keep doing that until you cum.

    It is pretty easy to cum once you learn how to control her movements.
     
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    We have been to many swingers clubs and most guys do go about the average that is talked about above,I have not scene to many couples have straight intercourse for an hour.You just started having sex so as you have more sex there will be times when you last a long time and times when you cum faster so just enjoy the ride.
     
  10. cbrmale

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    If I had a lady squirming under me and telling me 'harder' I may take that as a sign to hurry up.

    Bassdude is right, the best sex is pleasure shared and the best way for a woman to come is through oral sex. I thought this is what you were doing (guess I thought this is what all men do), but reading your response I take it that you aren't going down on your partner before intercourse. You should read up on how to do oral and then put it into practice. Not only will your partner have a much better chance of reaching her pleasurable peak, giving oral is one of the most delightfully intimate acts that a man will ever experience.

    As to the one or two hours of intercourse, I can't believe that's desirable. Total time of sex from beginning to end can last a long time or a little, but pounding away for hours non-stop?

    I did some website work for a high-class escort in Canberra, and she confirmed what I suspected. Even with a minimum one-hour booking most of her clients came after about five to ten minutes of intercourse. This seems to be the magic duration.
     
  11. Bluesy

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    What? No, no, no. Been there, done that, and it means I'm having an excellent time and nearing orgasm.

    Pride, no, squirting isn't very common (as has already been said), but that's mostly because it results exclusively from g-spot orgasm (not every woman squirts when she has one, btw), and some women aren't able to achieve a g-spot O as easily as others. Whether or not a woman has one depends on a variety of factors: how relaxed she is, how aroused she is, whether her g-spot is being stimulated (it's not in the same place on every woman). There are so many books and articles on the elusive g-spot O; be grateful that your lady can have one so easily! I'm still holding out for the Big One.

    Um, you are fucking huge! (Come on, let your male ego bask in the glow of a well-deserved compliment; it deserves it ;)) You might be hitting her cervix in certain positions, or at certain times (degree of arousal determines how pliant and accommodating the vagina is). Or she may be a little drier sometimes. It's not uncommon for women to need a bit of assistance (i.e., lube) when tackling a trouser leviathan. (Bask, ego, bask.)