Spouse sharing

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by ramtuf49, Jun 3, 2003.

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How do you feel about sexually sharing your partner

  1. Do you fantasize about sharing your wife with another man

    11 vote(s)
    45.8%
  2. Do you fantasize about sharing your husband with another woman

    3 vote(s)
    12.5%
  3. Would you actually share your wife sexually

    9 vote(s)
    37.5%
  4. Would you actually share your husband sexually

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    0.0%
  5. Would you like to see your wife with another woman

    12 vote(s)
    50.0%
  6. Would you like to see your husband with another man

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    4.2%
  7. Have you already shared your wife with another man

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  8. Have you already shared your husband with another woman

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  1. ramtuf49

    ramtuf49 New Member

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    How do you guys and gals feel about sharing your spouse in a 3some or 4 some either straight or bisexually?
     
  2. elevation24

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    Absolutely not interested.

    I definitely don't fantasize about him being with another girl/guy, and I definitely don't want it to happen nor would I get pleasure out of watching it.

    As far as threesomes go, if I weren't in a committed relationship and if I didn't have a child with him, I might be interested. Say we were just friends for awhile, or we were just dating, or whatever, and I didn't have much to lose, but being in a committed relationship I just don't think that I would have the trust that I do now, and I don't think he would trust me either. What if I liked being with the other guy/girl better than him? We might break up over it, and that's something I don't want to lose. There wouldn't be nearly as much jealousy if we were not in a committed relationship and thus it wouldn't be as big a deal to me.
     
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    i would absolutly LOVE to hear more peoples opinions about this subject!
    im in a situation where someone wants to listen to me having sex or oral sex with another man.. any thougths? on why this might be a turn on..?
     
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    Why is it a turn on to watch Porn? The sounds, the moaning (if any) may be a turn on to some people!
    :) Vampie
     
  5. farspark

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    There's no "have shared wife with another woman" or "have shared husband with another man" option??

    This aside, I've never particularly liked the terminology "spouse sharing" - it sounds a bit too much like the "wife/husband-as-property" for my liking - although I do fantasise about threesomes and moresomes. We talk about this as a couple from time to time, but it would really have to be a right person, right place, right time thing... And sexual health would be a major consideration... All up this seems next to impossible during our current "having babies" stages of life - perhaps we were are retired and in a rest home (now there's an idea!). Did dabble a bit in this sort of game a few years ago however...

    Here's a question... if my wife shared me with some other women's husband would this mean they would have to paint my roof while they were at it?? I mean, come on - got to take the chores with the fun stuff!
     
  6. nurseratchet69

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    My husband and I discuss it often. Maybe it's a fantasy,maybe not.
    I know my husband would love to watch me with 2 men at a time. Use your immagination what I would be doing. And I am a little curious him with another women. The only bad part, what if the other people want to have a relationship?
     
  7. jackpotmaster

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    Sharing is a solution

    I have shared my wife with 4 men and it was all good. One time a threesome developed which was fun. The basis is that you must have a solid relationship before entering anything like this. We now have a regular guy who knows the situation, which is very good. I have M.S. am disabled and cannot sexually satisfy my partner anymore and as any solid relationship requires the 6 point rule, You must do what is needed to make all points active. Respect, Trust, Honesty, the heart, the physical attraction and sex. I consider that if you have 5 points (no sex) then sex is simply the cream on the great coffee. Its all a matter of skin on skin and thats it. Of course the wife must be ready to explain in detail what took place and thats it. Each time my wife returns from an encounter she proceeds to tell me all including her cumming which for me is all I really want...Her total satisfaction. Of course it's imperitive that the "Boy Toy" is clean and definately not married. Its simply a booty call for both parties and we have no problems. I fall in love with her more each time she goes out for a couple of hours and comes home with a very wet pussy (the proof that she did it) Enjoy. If your relationship is missing any of the 5 points mentioned, do not proceed or you may have problems...not good
     
  8. Logger

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    Dear JackpotMaster,

    Thanks for sharing the 6 Points.

    Here is an article for starting out. I have enough of a challenge just getting my household in order.



    First date with another couple


    So, you've finally picked a couple that you would like to see in person? For most couples it is exciting and at the same time frightening idea at first. Two of you have probably fantasized about thousands of possible scenarios that can develop between four of you. But now you are going to actually meet them face to face and experience it for real. So, what should you expect and not to expect from your first date?

    It is very important to make sure that you've talked in lengths with the couple you're going to meet. Talk about the boundaries and limitations that you and your partner have set for your first experience. Make sure to communicate to them things like how far you would like to go if things click right, what is OK and what is not OK to do and to say.

    You, also, should find out what their boundaries and limits are. Many couples prefer to have a no strings attached meeting at first. Some prefer to go all the way. Others would set a limit on flirting and light touching. Maybe exchanging partners on the dance floor or for a pool game. It's all up to you as long as everyone is aware of what the limits are.

    It is a good idea to set your first date at a restaurant or a bar. Make sure it's not too quiet so you can talk on any spicy topic you want. If you live a good distance from each other, suggest to meet half way, so it's convenient for everybody.

    When you finally meet your couple face to face - it's OK to through a complement or two and it's also OK to mention if you're nervous. They probably are too and it puts everybody at easy just a bit. Once you've settled down at a table or at a bar - it's all up to you four. Some popular topics for the conversations are about how you have met each other, other couples you've gone out with, why you have decided to join the lifestyle, etc.

    Once you have spent about an hour or two with a couple - you probably have formed a good idea about whether all four of you have clicked or if you don't think you want to see them ever again. Make sure to figure out some sort of a way to communicate between each other about your feelings in either situation. Maybe tapping each other in a certain way, or working some "keyword" or a phrase into the conversation - you can get as creative as you want. If you would rather cut the evening short and go home - you can just politely say your goodbyes at the end of the dinner and be on your way. If you're being offered to prolong the evening, you can always mention that you have prior commitments for the rest of the day. That will get you out of the situation safe and without hurting their feelings.

    If you want to continue your adventure with them, but don't necessary want to go into the bedroom - there are other things you can do to continue the spicy evening. You can go to places like billiards, bowling or just take a walk and chat. It really is up to you and what everybody is comfortable with at that moment.

    If you feel like you want to do something more upbeat, you can offer them to go out dancing to a local club. If you are all getting along well, another sexy idea may be to exchange partners right there on the dance floor. Watching your partner dance with someone else can be a turn-on on its own and give you a little preview of what may follow in later encounters.

    Some couples prefer to turn it up a little more and visit a local strip club especially if one of the activities you are interested in is a girl-girl action. Or you can go to a swing club and maybe get even wilder there. However, be careful about proposing such ideas. Make sure to bring it up politely and give everybody a chance to say no if they are not comfortable with it at that point.

    You don't have to go all the way on your first date or even get sexual at all. As a matter of fact, a lot of couples prefer to prolong the non-sexual activities for a while. That is due to a fact that many couples love the flirting, sexual tension and the mystery just as much as the sexual encounter itself. Some of the activities that can prolong the enjoyment of the experience before the first sexual encounter include going out shopping for sexy outfits where everybody models them for the rest of the group. Going out on separate dates is something that some couples do to get to know each others' partners a little better as well as to increase the comfort level. Some couples enjoy sharing a Jacuzzi together, exchanging partners for a massage and many other activities that do not necessary involve sex, but many consider just as arousing and sexy.

    Even though you have probably all talked about what you are looking for and what you expect from your experiences via e-mail, phone or Instant Messenger, you should talk more about it face to face which maybe a little awkward at first, but you'll find that the conversation can be very sexy and arousing. Share with them any fantasies that you might have had about your possible encounters. They have probably had a few themselves. All of this will ease you up into escalating your relationship to a next level.

    Some couples feel comfortable with each other right away and decide to engage in sexual activities the same evening. Those encounters usually happen at one of the couple's home, hotel room, swing club, and sometimes even in a car. It is really up to you! Some prefer to have their first experience in separate rooms, some prefer to keep it in the same room. Many times everybody starts with their own partners and the exchange occurs later on. Or sometimes it happens vice versa where you swap for the foreplay, but join your partner for the later activities.

    We hope no matter how far you go on your first date, your evening is enjoyable and you at least make two new friends if nothing else. Enjoy your experience!

    Find more information about the lifestyle at SwingersBoard.com's Information Page!




    Copyright © 2001-2003, BayCouples.com - All Rights Reserved.

    Contact us
     
  9. jackpotmaster

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    Sharing is an answer

    Thanks for your ideas, but in our life there is no room for another woman. Women are a very different breed and do not support sexual partners easily, and I have no attraction to have sex with another woman...its all for my wife and thats it. I only want my wife to be satisfied sexually. even joining in with the guy and my wife is not really on although I am a little bi-curious. She likes the 1 on 1 setup and I am fine with it as long as she gets satisfied. She is post menopausal so it is her right to have what she deserves. As long as the 5 points are intact then there will not be any friction (apart from the sexual kind) and that the partner fully understands the whole basis of the "game"

    Thanks for sharing the 6 Points.

    Here is an article for starting out. I have enough of a challenge just getting my household in order.



    First date with another couple


    So, you've finally picked a couple that you would like to see in person? For most couples it is exciting and at the same time frightening idea at first. Two of you have probably fantasized about thousands of possible scenarios that can develop between four of you. But now you are going to actually meet them face to face and experience it for real. So, what should you expect and not to expect from your first date?

    It is very important to make sure that you've talked in lengths with the couple you're going to meet. Talk about the boundaries and limitations that you and your partner have set for your first experience. Make sure to communicate to them things like how far you would like to go if things click right, what is OK and what is not OK to do and to say.

    You, also, should find out what their boundaries and limits are. Many couples prefer to have a no strings attached meeting at first. Some prefer to go all the way. Others would set a limit on flirting and light touching. Maybe exchanging partners on the dance floor or for a pool game. It's all up to you as long as everyone is aware of what the limits are.

    It is a good idea to set your first date at a restaurant or a bar. Make sure it's not too quiet so you can talk on any spicy topic you want. If you live a good distance from each other, suggest to meet half way, so it's convenient for everybody.

    When you finally meet your couple face to face - it's OK to through a complement or two and it's also OK to mention if you're nervous. They probably are too and it puts everybody at easy just a bit. Once you've settled down at a table or at a bar - it's all up to you four. Some popular topics for the conversations are about how you have met each other, other couples you've gone out with, why you have decided to join the lifestyle, etc.

    Once you have spent about an hour or two with a couple - you probably have formed a good idea about whether all four of you have clicked or if you don't think you want to see them ever again. Make sure to figure out some sort of a way to communicate between each other about your feelings in either situation. Maybe tapping each other in a certain way, or working some "keyword" or a phrase into the conversation - you can get as creative as you want. If you would rather cut the evening short and go home - you can just politely say your goodbyes at the end of the dinner and be on your way. If you're being offered to prolong the evening, you can always mention that you have prior commitments for the rest of the day. That will get you out of the situation safe and without hurting their feelings.

    If you want to continue your adventure with them, but don't necessary want to go into the bedroom - there are other things you can do to continue the spicy evening. You can go to places like billiards, bowling or just take a walk and chat. It really is up to you and what everybody is comfortable with at that moment.

    If you feel like you want to do something more upbeat, you can offer them to go out dancing to a local club. If you are all getting along well, another sexy idea may be to exchange partners right there on the dance floor. Watching your partner dance with someone else can be a turn-on on its own and give you a little preview of what may follow in later encounters.

    Some couples prefer to turn it up a little more and visit a local strip club especially if one of the activities you are interested in is a girl-girl action. Or you can go to a swing club and maybe get even wilder there. However, be careful about proposing such ideas. Make sure to bring it up politely and give everybody a chance to say no if they are not comfortable with it at that point.

    You don't have to go all the way on your first date or even get sexual at all. As a matter of fact, a lot of couples prefer to prolong the non-sexual activities for a while. That is due to a fact that many couples love the flirting, sexual tension and the mystery just as much as the sexual encounter itself. Some of the activities that can prolong the enjoyment of the experience before the first sexual encounter include going out shopping for sexy outfits where everybody models them for the rest of the group. Going out on separate dates is something that some couples do to get to know each others' partners a little better as well as to increase the comfort level. Some couples enjoy sharing a Jacuzzi together, exchanging partners for a massage and many other activities that do not necessary involve sex, but many consider just as arousing and sexy.

    Even though you have probably all talked about what you are looking for and what you expect from your experiences via e-mail, phone or Instant Messenger, you should talk more about it face to face which maybe a little awkward at first, but you'll find that the conversation can be very sexy and arousing. Share with them any fantasies that you might have had about your possible encounters. They have probably had a few themselves. All of this will ease you up into escalating your relationship to a next level.

    Some couples feel comfortable with each other right away and decide to engage in sexual activities the same evening. Those encounters usually happen at one of the couple's home, hotel room, swing club, and sometimes even in a car. It is really up to you! Some prefer to have their first experience in separate rooms, some prefer to keep it in the same room. Many times everybody starts with their own partners and the exchange occurs later on. Or sometimes it happens vice versa where you swap for the foreplay, but join your partner for the later activities.

    We hope no matter how far you go on your first date, your evening is enjoyable and you at least make two new friends if nothing else. Enjoy your experience!

    Find more information about the lifestyle at SwingersBoard.com's Information Page!




    Copyright © 2001-2003, BayCouples.com - All Rights Reserved.

    Contact us[/QUOTE]
     
  10. Logger

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    Dear Jackpot Master,

    Have you ever heard of Essure? This replaces tubal ligation, to be certain that pregnancy does not occur. Post-menopausal wmen have still gotten pregnant, on rare occasions.

    http://www.essure.com
     
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    me and my wife have an open relationship. she likes the fantasy of me being with another woman. you are right in saying her needs are a given right. you do however need a strong relationship in order to live this way. for example years ago my wife was a lesbian and had her share of women, when she told me this i was in shock. a couple years later we had been together for quiet some time, when this girl came into the picture and i knew my soon to be wife was intrested in her and she actually set up a threesome. at that time i wasn't confident enough in myself and our relationship to withstand something like that. now we have such a solid relationship that we have an enormous amount of trust. therefore in our "commited" relationship we can do those sorts of things and it's not something people who don't have anything to lose practice. it makes a relationship stronger.
     
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