Hey, im a male, 19 years of age and i am for the first time in my life in an relationship where sex has come into play in a way it hasnt been before. In addition to this, i got some questions, becouse i am little bit insecure. It would mean alot for me if you could take your time and answer these, and also take me and my questions serious. In advance for that, thank you for taking your time. Ive had sex before, but not while being with someone that i really care about aka. in a relationship. What seems to be a problem to me, is that i am kind of insecure with what my partner wants or not, wich also goes for me. I talk to her all the time about these kind of stuff. But i would also like to hear from you, the more experienced people, what you think. So.. My questions are: 1. Is 15-40 minutes duration of sex normal? I'd like to continue even longer, but it seems like she turns off or something, or does not want anymore and starts with kisses/hugs and kind of just lays down to cuddle.. When f.ex. i would like to continue, as ive heard the orgasms etc. gets better the more time/effort you put into it. I've never really experienced it has been goin ther other way around.. Im i turning her off or something? She has also mentioned that sometimes, it starts to hurt for her if she continue. I think this sometimes might be reason to why she quits. In that case, do you know what it could be? Ive asked her, and she's sayd that she's not 100% sure.. 2. How many times a week/day is it normal for a young couple to have sex? We've been together for like 2-3 months, and when we're together it can go from 2-3 times a day, till nothing for a couple of nights.. 3. Doggystyle seems to be a turnoff to me.. Wich i kind of think is bad, we've had it once and the second time.. I couldnt do it... I feel bad for her at that moment, and i felt bad that i couldnt do what she wanted. She sayd that after that time, we'll never doin' that again.. Even though i feel like she wished i could. It also seems to me that after this incident, she has been afraid to say what she really wants to do in bed in case i dont really want to do it.. Wich is kind of sad for both of us... What advice/tips do can you give me that i should do or talk to her about to make her feel more comfortable to tell me what she wants? Ive sayd that i will be clear on what i want or not no matter what she asks about.. But it seems like she is a little bit afraid to be rejected. :/ 4. Out of curiosity, what is the definition of rough sex?