As some of you are aware, the intimate part of our relationship has come a grinding halt do to guilt from no premarital sex. Now for me, after three weeks looking for just where is says this I have come up nothing. If you go back into the word Greek word porneia it is defined by everything but it. If you look at the context of letters to the Corinthians. It has to do with them having sex with prostitutes and gods to everything everything illicit. Then you have Leviticus 18:1–26, where it has everything, but again nothing on the unmarried. Now for the red flags. LM has a friend who's married life is in shambles and has been since I have known her. She is "Born again" her husband is not. As far as I know that it is sexless and as far as I know he is a non believer or in the least has nothing to do with her faith as a couple. Here is the crux of this. In all of her prayers about her own life she and the "sin" she is living she hasn't been able to correct it through her own prayer, but has the ability to tell LM she is sinning by not being married. Because He came to her with a vision. Now there is much more to this woman that causes me to question her ability to condemn and correct LM and myself when she can't get her own house in order. Red Flag One. We have been together for over six years, now as some know, religion is starting to effect our lives. I have a faith, but is one that I question and seek my own thoughts about it rather than listen to one view from one church. Hers on the other hand has it's the belief that it is divine and that what she hears and reads can not be questioned. Red Flag two Which in turn is causing me to wonder if I am going to do everything wrong and her everything right? Red Flag three Then on to this. We live 22 miles apart. We see each other once a week, twice if we are lucky. I have a son that lives with me part time and I live close to his mom so that we can both be part of his life. Even though we are divorced. LM has indicated that she has waited to get married. And thought we would have by now. She was and has been aware that my son is priority. We have talked about getting married just so we can have "Sex", which to me has nothing to do the relationship we have had. or seems to had. But, it is not to simply to get married to have sex it is to have one with family and friends. And a diamond ring. WTF, why? Then there is the whole shitty deal that I am not working right now and that is another hang up for her. Now for me if it just about getting married to be intimate and our relationship can stay firm, my opinion is, lets just get married and live our life like it has been. We both have been married in long term ones at that. Not sure what the need is to do the big bang thing again. If it is only for sex to be ok. Which leads me to Red Flag four. Are these red flags or not?Up until this religion thing cropped up we have a wonderful life. Now I wonder how much this is going to effect the rest of life together?