Solo Act E.D.

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Cappy_Dick, Dec 29, 2012.

  1. Cappy_Dick

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    I'm gonna throw this out there and see if anyone has had the same problem and gotten past it. I hope to hear from any of you guys and gals that can offer anything helpful.

    I'm 50 and fairly healthy. For most of my life, I have had at least one regular sex partner, up until a few years ago. I'd rather not get into the complications that changed that, but now, sex is infrequent, at best.

    Now, I have two FWB's. One is in a similar boat to me. We get together 3-4 times a year to enjoy each other, The other is my "internet partner". We fill each other's emotional needs and have some pretty hot phone sex around 2x a month. When doing things with either lady, I get rock hard erections and very satisfying orgasms. My phone sex partner gets me so hot, that I often have to edge so that we can cum together.

    So, seemingly my equipment is in good working order. I even still get rock hard erections in my sleep. The problem is, phone sex a couple times a month and in person sex a couple times a year is not enough. I feel horny and want to cum more often, but I can't seem to get hard by myself.

    I can watch porn showing things that turn me on for an hour, but not get hard. I can imagine some of my hottest real experiences and/or fantasies, but still nothing.

    Any guy who has ever had this problem knows that while you can still ejaculate without being hard, there isn't much pleasure or satisfaction.
    The only way I can think of to describe the difference is this:
    Blowing one's nose relieves the pressure, but it's not very satisfying and you fill back up soon. Whereas, a sneeze clears you right out, feeling emptied and satisfied.

    In a nutshell, I need to be able to satisfy my needs between encounters, but can't seem to, even though everything works fine. If anyone has ideas that can help, I look forward to reading them.

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  2. lbushwalker

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    The emotional component is missing when you are not interacting with a real woman.
    Arousal and need may still be there but without the "connection" nothing goes; it is a psychological not physical need.
    I have had similar issues even in the presence of female but ones that I had been unable to relate to emotionally.
    At our age randiness is not just physical in nature.