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Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by MissJuicy, Jun 17, 2014.

  1. MissJuicy

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    So basically, does your SO know your on this ? If they do how did they react? Would you be happy for them to see everything you say or is said to you ? Or do you shy away from telling them.


    I only ask as mine decided to sign up tonight to see what he thinks of it :)


    MJ
     
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    My wife doesn't know that I am on here. I wish I could breach that with her but I am not sure what she would think. I think it would be fun and exciting to have your partner be on this forum.
     
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    See that's kind of the way I see it, I have no problem letting him see it all and well he even said about us posting some couple's stuff ;)
     
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    My wife knows I am on here and I know she is on here. I have no problems knowing what she says and what others say to her.
    It's all good :)
    It's nice having a wife and friend you can tell about the stuff on here.
     
  5. oldkid

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    This is not going to be a criticism, though you may see it that way. In my youth, I probably would have had the same reservations. Look at it from more than one angle. Is she going to leave you (for example), because she finds you keeping something about you away from her? If that's how weak your bonds are, keep it a secret. If you think she trusts you, why don't you trust her with your secrets? If you would tell a buddy, she's supposed to be your best buddy. After 50 years with the same woman, she's still my best buddy. Take a chance once in awhile. Trust. If she's going to go ballistic, the trust may not be there. And you won't make it fifty years. It may be you who has the problem. Guilt is a hard thing to carry long-term. Pull up your big boy pants, and share.
     
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    The boyfriend knows I'm on this site. When I first signed up, he checked it out to make sure I was making it clear that I'm taken, then he just left it to me as my "toy."
     
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    The glory of being honest and open just make your relationship grow and blossom, as for me and my SO we have a wonderful relationship ,she comments on guys cocks and pussy and ass for me lol we masterbate together we enjoy other woman 4 me and men for her ,ive never been so happy !!! it s all how tou control your mind,it can get the best of you if you let it ,be stong and have fun.
     
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    Like I said on another similar thread - my SO knows I'm on here and has more or less read all my posts. 100% transparency on my online "activities." Actually, she jokingly said the other day she was happy I played around on here as much as I do - otherwise she'd have the full focus of my sexual energy which would be "too much for [her] to handle... currently." :D
     
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    None of my "others" are significant enough to warrant full disclosure.

    Though I'm not sure I contribute enough to even require disclosure.....
     
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    I told my boyfriend about the site but not much about what I post and not much about the conversations I have. :(He worries too much.
     
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    I posted this elsewhere she's free to look but doesn't. She knows I'm on here and doesn't mind.
     
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    Mine does not know. I keep this as a release. When it comes to sex we have had a hard time communicating lately but it's understandable in our situation. She would not want to be on this site anyways she can be reserved . However givin " rules" laid out there is nothing wrong with me being here but really she doesn't want to deal with it. Same way with porn. Kind of a long story. Yes one day it would be great for her to open up and I brave enough lol to share this. Congrats to all of you that are able too!
     
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    I don't know that "able to" is really how I'd term it (for me). It was more like a moral imperative - I had to. Otherwise I'd feel so dishonest and guilty all the time for "fooling around" (even if only virtually) with people other than my SO.
     
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    I get it. I just didn't want to reply to every scenario for different people. I don't feel dishonest because of what we had discussed. It just one of those things, like she knows I watch porn from time to time but is not interested what and when unless she thinks it's affecting something and also that we discussed flirting wasn't a big deal unless it was an ex lol
     
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    just be carful because worry sometimes becomes hurt and hurt leads to non trust ,its a domino effect,have fun just becarful.
     
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    Yea thanks
     
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    :) Your welcome
     
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    Nope
     
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    Your avatar reminds me of the "ex"...its his FB pic...
     
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    Does not know. Shhhh :)
     
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