I think I need some advice on a situation I am dealing with... I'll try to add as many details as I can... I am not a jealous guy, so this isn't a post about worrying about losing my g/f to this guy, but worrying about what he might do to her without her approval. My g/f works with this guy who has a massive crush or infatuation with her. He helps her at work at various times and they have been friends for awhile, etc. A month or so ago he helped her with this big project and it was close to his birthday so my g/f offered to take him out for drinks. She asked me if it was ok and I told her she didn't need my permission etc. So when they went out he reveals that he really liked her and knew he couldn't be with her etc because we were engaged... but if things didnt work out he would like a chance with her. So she told me and I laughed and seriously wasn't upset and just called him a "cock blocker" and said I respected him for trying to make his move, etc - which I did, I didn't lie to her. A lot of her friends at work had suspected he liked her, and when I went to her work the one day and he saw me, he got really nervous. So I knew something was up, so his revelation didn't come as a big surprise to me. She really likes this guy as a friend and felt pretty bad about the whole situation and wasn't sure what she should do. So I told her that she didn't have to do anything. That there is no reason she couldn't still be friends with this guy - that it was really on him to put his feelings for her aside and just be her friend. Then it got a little interesting... My g/f loves Hummers (the vehicle sickies) and last week this guy goes out and buys... yeah a Hummer. I asked her if she told him about how much she loved them and she said "oh yeah everyone at work knows how much I love Hummers and want to get one" So I'm thinking this isn't exactly a coincidence, especially since he asked her if she wanted to take a ride in it. Again she asked me if it was ok to go for a ride with him and I was cool with it.. during their ride he asked if it was ok if they are friends, that he is afraid I will kill him ,etc. Now keep in mind I never once talked to this guy beyond a hello and never threatened him to his face or through my g/f... he obviously just feels guilty I suppose. My g/f said the truth, that I'm not a jealous guy and never tell her what to do, and that yes, they can be friends. She then said "he would only hurt you if you touched me in a sexual way..." So now here is the problem... I am back in my hometown for a month or so... and this guy knows I am, because she told him. She is very trusting and doesn't think he will ever try anything with her... she told him I was gone because he said maybe next time she could drive the Hummer. But he said he didn't want to take her time away from me or whatever.. and she said that I would be gone for a month or so, so she would have a lot of free time. I'm a little upset at her for revealing that I'm gone... I trust my g/f with my life, but I don't feel comfortable with this guy knowing I'm gone and possibly trying something. I'm not a violent guy and have always gone out of my way to make sure ppl. aren't intimidated by me... but I want this guy to be afraid of me, to fear my presence and to know I'm around. Am I wrong for feeling this way? I just am now a little freaked he bought a Hummer and the questions he is starting to ask her... I don't feel badly for not trusting this guy... but I do feel badly for wanting him to be afraid of me... From what she says he sounds like a good guy and she tried to set him up with her friend, but he "wasn't in to her". I just am on the border of wanting to protect my g/f, but knowing I can't try and control what she does. What does everyone think about this situation... especially guys.. how would you feel?