So Sexually Frustrated

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by gerg1991, Mar 18, 2012.

  1. gerg1991

    gerg1991 New Member

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    Hello Everyone,

    Wanted to start by saying hello. This is my fisrt post at SF.

    So my girl and I have been together for 3 years now and our sex life has changed signifigantly. We use to have sex everyday and it was amazing. Eventally it started slowing down and its now down to once or twice a week. Now whenever we have sex I try to take the most advantage of it by attempting to do new and different things
    ,mostly stuff I learned from this site, thank you everyone. But, she is so against it. Everything has to so traditional in the bedroom and it blows causing me to get so frustrated sexually. Does anyone else have problems like this in the bedroom?
     
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    Hello first of all. I feel your pain.

    Have you actually discussed this with her? She might be scared or nervous about trying new things. Might be a good place to start. The other option, if she is open to it, is looking at sex books or even go to an adult store. Browse talk about items that interest you or turn you on. Might give you a chance to find what her limits are.

    You should say something if you are not happy with your sex life though.
     
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    I live that way for 18 years. But I loved her so I stayed.

    her problem ended up being fear of being a pervert, but we talked about everything very openly and it made her feel better. Now for the last 2 years she has been an absolute freak in the sheets.

    We watch good porn almost everytime and use toys, and talk nasty dirty to each other. Sex is so much fun now and has built an inseperable bond between us.

    So try and tallk openly with her and see her response. Also if u bring porn in the bedroom, make sure the guy is hot as well as the gal so she has something to look at also. To much porn is geared toward the man and not her.

    This is my first post also, good luck.
     
  4. gerg1991

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    I mean I have brought it up a few times and have successfuly been able to get her to do a few things but usually she says that " its just not me to do that kind of thing". I havent taken her to an adult store but I will be sure to try that.
     
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    First, Welcome to SF.

    My SO and I both joined this site at the same time...he was sitting at his desk registering and me on the bed with my laptop. We each read things that interested us then shared our thoughts about it. Now he is not quite so active here due to work and the fact that the weather is getting nice...motorcycle time and all :). However I do still tell him about posts that might be of interest to him and then he will log on and read them. Things that I've learned here have helped me be more open and relaxed.
     
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    Definitely talk about the whole "its just not in me to do..." It is one thing for someone to put limits on sex (anal). But, if it is just toys etc. talk about that. Listen to her and get her fears in the open. You can work from there. I do agree Cwprotek, it will be better when you get her fears in the open.
     
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    It is very difficult if you OH is much less sexually driven than you. It will take a load of patience and careful choice of ways to stimulate her. Testing her with new things to do and ways to do it.

    Unfortunately, it can be a slow process.