So, I'm not aggressive enough....

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  1. Rook

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    Not in bed, in a relationship, or anything long-term for that matter. I'm just not aggressive enough while approaching girls.

    I don't know why really. I know it is a real problem because I can't meet the right woman because I end up dating aggressive women. Not that I have a problem with aggressive women, I just need to be dominant, they usually don't let me.

    What do you guys think? Should I just sack-up and go talk to the girls instead of trying not to compete?
     
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    Me thinks you may have answered your own question,
    If it came down to competing with the other guys or, as you say, sacking down and talking with the girls, I know what Id rather do...:D
    One thing about girls is they all talk, and the've all got girlfriends,if you come across as a decent kind of guy you should'nt have too much trouble finding one that appreciates the sort of person you are...
    Have some faith in yourself Rooky, they say theres someone for everyone you know, and at only 22 I wouldnt start getting ready for the priesthood just yet;)
     
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    I only agree with the second half of your comment. I don't "talk" and I only have 1 friend that's a girl. :eyes
    But I completely agree with the sentiment behind your statements. :)
     
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    You need to take lessons from melicious!! ;>
     
  5. Rook

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    Thanks guys (and gals). I just get really irritated with guys who constantly are really aggressive while going after women, so I refuse to be one myself.
     
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    It's common that really mellow, easy going guys end up with power-house type women. And often they are in fact a good match for each other! Are you that sort of guy! If so, just accept yourself, and accept that strong girl who compliments your type of personality! Probably you are the leader in quieter, less obvious type of things. Maybe you are practical, good with finances, a good planner or shopper etc.
     
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    Rose Resident Sexy Grandma
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    Mr. Rook:
    I am disgustingly outspoken (not dominant). My husband is very kind and sentimental (not 'competitive').
    I agree with the previous posters - accept yourself. Be real and honest. Thorn & I didn't hook up till he was 28 and I was 23.
    Some fine lady is going to realize what a treasure you are, so don't sell yourself short.
     
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    Sorry Pirouette, should have used the words "vast majority" in my post:D

    HW now goes off to be punished with 6 strokes across penis with wet shoelace:whip
     
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    Why does it have to be a competition? I don't get that. I have a very, er, strong personality and frankly I have no patience for more passive guys. I want a guy who isn't intimidated; their take-no-bullshit attitude brings out my gentler, more passive traits. Sounds to me like maybe you're dating control freaks instead of truly assertive women. If you want to change the tide, you have to learn how to be assertive yourself, and how to steer clear of the control freaks.

    That's a damn scary-looking shoelace :eek
     
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    You also turned down a scholarship to MIT... you're not exactly what we'd refer to as the average or median woman. And I love ya for it!
     
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    shut up. :eek
    (Love ya, too...........just not so much at the moment.)
     
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    :(
    sowwy.
     
  13. Rook

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    Because women are territory (I know everyone just picked up a rock to stone me with as soon as they read that.) in a very primitive aspect. Guys think that women are something to be won, and many women like to see men fight over them. Don't ask me, I hate people too.

    Alright, steer away from the control freaks I'll agree with.

    Not assertive? Me? Don't think so.

    I just don't like competing for women like most men do. I hate feeling like I would ever have to prove anything to them, fit certain criteria, or anything else for that matter.
    I just hate trying to pick up girls randomly because I think its a pathetic attempt to connect with someone. If you really want to get to know someone, you wouldn't do it solely off of looks (or smells).

    I talk to everyone that crosses my path...and do several other things that are (textbook) assertive, just not going up to girls to follow what the boys will say when they see a hot girl walkin about.

    Which sounds alot like this: "Damn dude! You see that one? Go talk to her, go talk to her!"
     
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    Hmm, I really don't have a problem competing for girls. I guess it's cause it makes me feel good. Here's the thing (if you see my post right below yours):

    I only win for the night. The next theyre with another guy. Girls are sluts, and you need to realize that. Get with as many as you can (it feels so good).
     
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    Have I mentioned you piss me off original? You're a fool.
     
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    Lol. I think you've mentioned it before.
     
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    Yea, his fan list isn't growing......
     
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    Um, uh, a scholarship to MIT!!! WHOA!!! :bow :eek
     
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    :tsktsk Bad attitude man...
    Confucius say...Sometimes is better to keep mouth shut and let people think your a fool, rather than open it and remove all doubt!
     
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    Great quote Hot Wheels! Quite appropriate I might add. :tup

    It's also in the book of Proverbs I think.:)
     
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