[Ask a Girl] So, about facials?

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  1. SWOJLO

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    I've always thought of it as a sort of contextual bias..Women tend not to generally like facials, because of degredation, the porn connection, etc., but when framed within the context of being pleasing to a partner they love and respect, it becomes a much more fulfilling action.
     
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    I don't care to watch them when watching porn.
     
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    I also don't enjoy watching this in porn at all, but I do enjoy being on the receiving end - it is all part of pleasing someone, seeing & being part of that pleasure with someone you have feelings for. I actually find it a turn on
     
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    I am not into it in general. If I guy wants too then I will oblige. But I would prefer my mouth :)
     
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    I would definitely oblige you sweetheart! :)
     
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    I agree!
    Definitely find it a huge turn on!!
     
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    So hot!!!:)
     
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    A couple of girls that enjoy receiving, oh my, hot
     
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    I like it,and like to see it in porn
    what I don't think is sexy in porn is when it looks like she has a gallon of cum all over her face like in bukkake movies
     
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    Asked JLO and she simply said "Nope, you know that's not my thing."
     
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    I agree with the article. I don't like them at all
     
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    It's another question easy to answer. If we'd ask ourselves how many men have partners of the female kind who're interested in sex at all, then the percentage of those who like their men taking it off their pussies, asses, or mouth to get their jizz on their faces... and what's the percentage of those who are doing it after they think they can take their men for granted...

    Now, we don't really need to know the percentages. We all can pretty much guess how negligible they are.

    Most sex happening out there is penis in vagina, pump, pump, guy cums, woman's happy it's over and she can get on with her life.

    It's kind of sad there are adults out there who think porn depicts real life sex. They're setting themselves up for disappointment.
     
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    AGREED.

    I dont enjoy facials for myself...i dont enjoy playing with cum and it doesnt do anything for me sexually. HOWEVER...if a guy im with enjoys them, and ive had a good time (or im feeling especially indulgent), i will let him give me one. Seeing a partner's pleasure is in itself pleasureable.
     
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    So what is your take on why women are not interested in sex at all?
    There are plenty here that are but I talk to many guys that are in sexless marriages.
     
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    This is a sex forum and the very few actual women who are here, are looking for attention, with rare exceptions. Don't think that's a trustworthy sample of reality. It's very easy to tell a man on the net, who you'll never meet, that you loooooooooove getting it on the face, swallowing and using it as cake and sundaes topping.

    I think a lot about sex and why people do what they do, the way they do. I also read a lot about it, peer reviewed scientific papers. I haven't found a definitive answer to your question. I do have a few intuitive clues.

    I think men don't approach women the way they want to be approached. I see it myself, in my experiences. But women, being pretty stupid by upbringing and environmental influences, fool themselves. In doing so, they're also fooling the guy. When we first meet a man we like, we don't see him. We see only his positives. I'm not claiming men don't do the same, but we're talking about women.

    So, she can get all interested and find excuses for, or simply ignore, all the red flags of behavior and demeanor that should set them apart. Sexually, who won't want to go the extra mile to please, when pleasuring gives us that bliss? Because we love him.

    With the years, and with familiarity, his negatives become impossible to ignore. He'll be more and more relaxed and do more and more of what we don't like, that that we were avoiding to face as reality. And they add up to resentment.

    That's a big chunk of it. Pleasing him won't be rewarding, because pleasing one we love is great, but one we resent??? Not really.

    Now, why us sex for women about pleasing him, not herself?

    Because orgasm doesn't come as easy for women. Many never have one. From the one's who do, many have difficult in achieving sexual climax. And men don't know much about the clitoris.

    So, most sex sessions in most women lives is either not climaxing at all, or struggling to climax.

    Why don't women go for it on their own, since men are so ignorant about pleasuring us? Well, we do! But then, preferably not with him. Masturbation is so much easier than hoping a guy will touch the right spot, then, when you're about to come, his finger migrates to the wrong spots... and repeat.

    For many women, sex is frustrating.

    Why not teach a man where the right spot is? Because he doesn't learn. Because, for many, it's embarrassing. Everything out there is telling us we're either good girl, or a slut.

    Men think women are egoistic when they stop having sex. But I wonder how many years she has supported unsatisfying sex, before just being unable to take it anymore.

    There's also another problem. If you peruse most watched videos on porn sites and most popular threads on sex forums, you get a clue. Men are so self centered in their own pleasure and fantasies. It's all about coming on their faces, having them swallow their bleach-smelling spunk, getting them to let them do this, or that.

    What is in all of that for the woman?

    Comments about women are very negative. Then... he wants to fuck her. Ok.

    Whenever a woman writes an opinion here, a guy will post a disconnected "I'd fuck you", "I'd lick you the whole day", or something. So inept!!! Women aren't running out of men who want to fuck them. Women are running out of men who can make it worth the bother.

    This post is about women who avoid sex. It isn't about the minority of us who seek it.
     
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    Thank you for your response. I have to say you in most part are pretty spot on. I will admit to spending time reading and learning how to be a better lover not just watching porn which I would be a liar if I said I didn't view it.
    Now if my wife is being honest and I have zero reason to believe otherwise, she said just the other day she can't believe she is still having orgasms at very near 60. I told her I don't plan on that ending anytime soon so continue to enjoy them.
    Yes, her and I are way different in regards to sex I am always searching for ways to provide her with a better orgasm and I can also say I was not always like that. I will own up to having sex with women just so I could get off and that was because I was uneducated about woman and their bodies and what is required for them to enjoy sex and achieve orgasm.
    She does not talk about sex much she would just rather do it, I'm a talker let's discuss things, show me, tell me what feels good and what doesn't, sex is about communication not some damn guessing game and this is where I blame women if you want a better lover then talk about it and if the guy feels bad because he sucks in bed than so be it maybe he will get a clue.
    I am far from the perfect male but I talk with my wife, I open doors for her, I pick out the majority of her clothing, I do laundry and dishes but she does many more than I and most of all she is enjoying sex at the age she is because I make sure she is sexually satisfied. Does that mean I am? Not exactly I am a guy and I do enjoy sex more than two or three times per week but I deal with that. This forum is part of it to be able to talk and joke around with people that seem to enjoy sex also.

    I still don't understand the cum tastes like bleach thing. I had enough sexual experiences in life with multiple partners and never once have I had anyone say my cum tastes like bleach. Who drinks bleach to know? I have had partners that actually told me they thought my cum was tasty so I don't buy that in the least. I know diet has a lot to do with it so maybe I just eat right.

    With that said not all women like providing oral sex and some do and some don't swallow. My wife is Luke warm to providing oral but loves getting it without question. When she is seriously worked up she really enjoys it. I think this all falls under the upbringing and good girls don't do that garbage. With this said when she is naked and her legs are spread I tell her she is beautiful. I don't think women believe their bodies are beautiful. Something women definitely have to work on.

    To address the "Red flag" thing. This is an area where women have to get a damn clue guys are not going to change. Just because you give them sex doesn't mean they are going to change who they are for you. There are examples on this forum of guys that are submissive, cuckolds and on and on. Most guys are not going to give up doing what they like to do. I made it crystal clear before we got married what my hobbies are and don't for one minute think that is going to change if we get married because you will be extremely disappointed and mad.
    Woman want to try and change their partner into prince charming, give up the fairytale crap it isn't real life. No dumbass rides around on a magnificent horse saving damsels in distress.
    I do things for my wife because I love her not because I'm told to.

    It was a pleasure having this discussion.

    Have a great day.
     
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    Sensless, thanks for sharing those very interesting insights. Truly some great " real world" points to think about.
     
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    Bingo!! Preach it...:)
     
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    Quiet informative !