I have been reading these forums for a long time. I can't even remember my old login so I just made a new one. I will point out some things about my relationship. I am 33. She is 21. This is our 8th month of dating and everything was PERFECT for the first 6 months. The last 2 months have been extremely frustrating. I feel like she is sooooo needy and every second of happiness she has is completely dependent on me. She is very social and happy with people but she constantly doesn't go out with people she works with because she says she doesn't want to go drinking. For once in a relationship, I am actually suggesting she go out and drink and socialize instead of asking a girl not to go get wasted 5 nights a week. She seems to be distancing herself from friends that she doesn't feel are healthy but it has left her with not many friends. I feel smothered and we have talked about it. She has been doing good with finding something to do in her free time. There is one major problem though. When we do spend time together it doesn't seem like it's ever enough. FYI we live together and sleep next to each other. Every second we have a leg or arm on each other while we sleep. That stuff I like. I have always been down with the snuggling. Her is my point of frustration. No matter how long I snuggle, when I pull away to scratch my ass I hear a complaint. "You don't want to snuggle with me". If we are holding hands and I pull away because its necessary because of the situation (i.e. we are walking on a sidewalk and people are walking by) I get a complaint. She always wants to sit in my lap, even when it is completely uncomfortable and not convenient. Today's argument started because of that very issue. We slept in late because we usually do on Sundays. Because of this we were both starving and grumpy so we ran to grab a sub. When we get home to eat it, I sit down to my sub and she starts trying to sit on my lap. Basically I gently crossed my hands and let her know silently she couldn't sit down. She forced her way into my lap so I forced her off of me. Nothing violent. I just slid her off my lap onto the couch. She proceeds to silently tear up and it made me feel awful. I always feel awful telling her no but she seems to relentlessly put herself into these situations. I know we are worlds apart age wise. Everything else in this relationship is compatible. I work part time as a server/bartender while I am getting a business I just started off the ground. I admit my free time is limited when you add 2 soccer teams that I play on to the mix. I don't want to lose this girl. She is worth fighting for. How do I make this work?