I wouldn't normally do this,but I just can't seem to figure this one out. My live-in g/f of 5 years and I split up about 2 months ago. I am having a terrible time of it and think she is too. (saw her last weekend) In explaining why we broke up,I'll say this....I came into the relationship about a year after my wife had died,and maybe didn't think clearly about weather she was the kindof women that I would normally be attracted to,but we did get along well and had fun together. We are pretty much opposites in most things,but still got along well. The more I think of it,the more I think she is probably my soul mate. The last two years have been rough on me financially,in that my business went bankrupt,and it was a very emotional ride for me. In those two years I neglected her terribly;emotionally,physiclly,and as a lover. Now that I've moved out and have had time to reflect on everything,I wonder if I haven't made a mistake. She does have a "new" boyfriend now,but think its more for the sex than a relationship. I have thought that if there was any chance of us getting back together that she has to make changes too. Am I wrong in thinking that ? Or should I just move on ? My heart is breaking,and I'm not sure I can move on. Any thoughts welcome.