ive been with my gf for 4 years now but ive been getting a bad feeling lately about the strength of our relationship. story might be long but here goes.. she recently went to a party with (for confidential sake, Alex), and Alex brought along a group of friends and one of Alex's friends started hitting on my gf. She was drunk and apparently gave him her phone number. So now this new guy, lets say Kenny, texts her and asks her to hang out. My gf has told me just about everything that went on that night and how they just started to hang out cuz he goes to the college she does too. BUT, i have a bad feeling about Kenny, not Alex. recently i just found out she was lying to me. she doesnt know i know but i checked her text messages (i know thats bad). first lie... she has class from 6:45-9:55pm and she called me saying that the teacher held her class up the whole period and that she went to slept right after school. but when i checked her texts, Kenny texted her asking if he could give her a ride. she said if he could meet her at valley college since she got out EARLY! and they hung out. second lie...she went to a party on saturday and she wanted me to drop her off at a starbucks so her friend Brian could pick her up and take her there since i had to work. before we got there.. she got a call from Brian telling her to meet him at startbucks and on the ride there.. she told me she was texting Brian that shes on her way... turns out... Brian didnt even call her (i checked the call log), and she was texting Kenny to meet her at starbucks!! i confronted her but didnt ask about the lies. i told her i kinda feel threatened and insecure and that i have a bad feeling about Kenny. i asked her if she was interested in any of them (Alex or Kenny). she said "no, not necessarily, i would have to be friends with someone first before i like them". and then said she was getting annoyed by my questions and that i was being pushy and would break it off with me if i pushed further. she hasnt given me a reason to trust our relationship that much either recently. i asked her if i could trust her like a week ago and she said "no, you cant really trust anybody. even like you, you could find a girl that you find interesting in your class and maybe end up liking her and she could be a better fit for you than me and vice versa but im not accusing you of anything, i just dont have that trust in people"... so she asked me why i was asking her stuff like this, i told her that im afraid of losing her. she told me not to think that way and said she was happy with me. i dunno, im really stressed, frustrated, kinda heart broken, and i have to study for finals that comes up in 3 days..... HELP!