Should an overweight man take his shirt off during sex?

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  1. bt1257

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    If a guy is overweight or has gynecomastia, should he always leave his shirt on?
     
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    It's your choice. If you feel comfortable. I don't always feel comfortable, depends who I was with. Sex was better when I felt comfortable.
     
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    Depends on the guy and his comfort level.
     
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    As a Fat Guy let me say...
    I don't think there is a "should" as far as this goes. It is a question of personal comfort for the man in question. If he is uncomfortable taking his shirt off then keep it on or turn out the lights - him being uncomfortable and unrelaxed are going to ruin the experience more than a bit of clothing. :)
    If it's a problem for your partner for you to keep your shirt on... I don't know what to say - I simply can't see it being that much of an issue honestly. At first I never took my shirt off - nothing was ever said on it. It wasn't until she took it off of me that I stopped worrying about it - obviously it wasn't an issue for The Lady, so why should it bother me?
    Anyway, as I said above and just to recap: There is no imperative for a guy to remove his shirt. Do what is most comfortable for you.
     
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    I agree that ultimately it should be up to the guy whether or not his shirt is coming off. Sex should be consensual-- all parts of it.

    That being said, I can see myself being upset if a guy refused to take his shirt off when we were in bed. I wouldn't make a big deal of it, but I'd be let down. I'd feel like he didn't trust me enough to let go of the insecurity.
     
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    I might be being dim but I honestly don't understand the question.

    If you've got as far as the should/I shouldn't I take my shirt off stage then you should have got as far as the 'it shouldn't matter if you do stage'.
    If this is a relationship then just your physical attributes shouldn't be a make/break thing.
    In a relationship just how long could you leave your shirt on for?
    In a relationship how many other things and parts of sex are you going to/want to miss by leaving your shirt on.
    In a relationship the seeing, exploring, the feel of skin against skin, are all parts of 'sex', not just cock in pussy.
    How would you feel if your partner didn't/wouldn't remove her bra, top, nightdress.

    If it is just a quick fuck, why bother even taking your trousers off, just get your cock out.

    Not trying to be cruel, just realistic.
     
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    Is this about you, or is it a general inquiry? I don't care to answer if this is a general inquiry, because if it is, then it's ridiculous! Sorry, but I was just on the thread about a brother stealing panties from his mom and sister, and I can't sleep (two nights in a row), and I'm not up for any more BS.
     
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    Then let me ask you and make this a "no BS" specific inquiry, sandwich: As a guy that is severely overweight: Should I keep my shirt on during sexual encounters?
     
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    ^^^^^^. Only if your heater isn't working, and you're cold, or if your SO gets some sort of sexual charge out of it. Otherwise, skin to skin contact is so so nice. I have never cared for skinny men, by the way.
     
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    During intimacy, take off the shirt .
     
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    Oh, it never occurred to me that the OP meant anything other than during sex.
     
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    Hmmm I would
     
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    The only time that I can think of when it might just be acceptable for any guy, overweight or not, to leave his shirt on is for/during a 'quickie doggy' - then it might even be acceptable for his underwear and pants to be round his ankles.
    And I'm not joking.
     
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    Fair enough. To be fair now that I've realized that when you're in that moment it doesn't matter I always remove my shirt... unless it's just a quickie. ;)
     
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    Yes all four nipples should be open for pinching, yours and hers
     
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    If a woman is with you it's for a reason, if you feel comfortable with it take it off, if you don't then leave it on simple :)
     
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    U r 100 percent corret
     
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    I've had my own issues with my weight and I've been with bigger and smaller guys, both can have body issues, my fiance is real skinny and to start with I was worried when it came to the bedroom as I'm about 30lbs heavier than he is, but we love each other so it never became an issue and I feel confident inside and out
     
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