Shes NEVER horny!

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  1. idk

    idk New Member

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    aright my girlfriend was pretty good when we first started messing around and haveing sex, but now its been about 8 months and shes kinda slowing down, she gets horny like once every 3 days, i dont see her everyday and i thought that would help, but if she comes over in the morning and we mess around later that night i will want to go again and she gets mad and says thats all i want to do.
    this really just makes me mad because i guess im more sexual then her, and i love her and i would never want to be with anyone else but i have to find a way to make this work so i can be happy but she can be happy to..

    any ideas on whats going on or what i could do?
     
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    Tell us what else you do with your girlfriend? How else do you spend time together?

    Now, at the age you are, is a great time to learn the fundamental sexual difference between MOST men and women. (Most) Women need to feel loved and appreciated and wanted IN ORDER TO feel sexual/horny, whereas (most) men believe that sex is a good and adequate way to show/demonstrate love. So, while your intentions aren't exactly bad or wrong...the thought processes just are not the same.
     
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    well, i kinda like to be on my own, i dont like to go places with alot of people sometimes and i just like hangin out at home and takein it easy.

    i live on a lake so we just hang out and wakeboard, but most the time we just do stuff around the house, watch movies, play games, have sex if she wants it, ect.

    sometimes we do things like go to the movies, go to the mall, other stores, or be alone and go fishing together.

    i try to come out of my comfort zone for her and go where she wants when she wants to, but i guess somethings off cuz lately we argue more about stupid stuff and we disagree. it never used to be like that until about a month or two ago?
     
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    Once every 3 days? Holy shit. I just seen my gf for the first time in 3 WEEKS and I got shot down. :(
     
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    Have you read the Foreplay section?

    What foreplay do you work with when you want to go again?

    Time together is recommended for relationships. Anything else she wants to do, that you could do with her, so you could have more time together? The sex would be a smaller percentage of time.

    When my wife is not in the mood for insertion, I masturbate her and myself. She does not usually climax for my masturbating her, but it seems to make her feel a part of my climax.
     
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    :eek :( Not that you have to talk about it, but is there a specific reason why she wasn't up to, you know, appreciating you physically?

    Idk, friction like that is anathema to a woman's libido. Maybe you guys could sit down and clear the air...it might help.
     
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    Every 3 days is fine.
     
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    Sorry dude, but I gotta concur that her getting horny once every three days cannot accurately be called, 'she's NEVER horny!'

    We have members here go months and even years without sex, so you should consider yourself lucky. :)
     
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    IDK, your gf most likely is questioning your feeling for her due to your conflicts in the last couple of months. While you are able to push those conflicts aside and continue loving her physically and mentally, she cannot. Communication is the key, and make no mistake - if you do not she will only think you are interested in her for sex and you will NEVER get any. Also, since your so called "honeymoon" months in the relationship are over you may have to realize that she may not have as high of a sexdrive as you by genetics. This to can be solved by communication.

    Reinstill your love for her (particulary for more than just sex with her), and communicate that even if she doesnt naturally want sex as much as you, you can work something out because you love each other. You have to realize that you may need to put off your own needs in order to help her realize how you feel for a short time.

    P.S. I was in a relationship similar to yours for 6 years and I have a REALLY high sex drive. I could go on but I have already typed so much. I will say more if you need me to later =).... good luck
     
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    You should do things that get her mind off everything because most women I know can`t & won`t get in the mood if they have something on the`re mind.
    Try very soft porn (the romantic kind) or a back rub.
    Do things that get her mind on sex Like talking about the first time you were together things like that.
    I hope maybe I helped a little.
     
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    brother, you are going to have to treat her well to get at it. That doesn;t mean more wake boarding, more boating, hanging out at the house on the lake! That means dressing up and taking her to movies if she wnats to go, walk the mall with her, take her to fun GOOD restaurants, etc. Wine and dine her and treat her like your love, not your bud....How do I know? I've been there, like you doing what I wanted, putting myself first. It partially cost me one wife and nearly the 2nd one before I caught on.. Good luck.
     
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    AMEN to that!! Yes indeed!!! If I got that much sex, they'd have to come get me and take me to the hospital!!! :eek
     
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    I was just about to say the same thing.
     
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