I met my girlfriend over the internet 3 years ago, she moved from Australia to live with me and we've been together for over a year. We have a monogamous relationship, both have no desire to go with others partners. We've made long-term plans to be together and some of our arrangements will be set in motion after Christmas. I've only had 4 girlfriends before but all were long-term relationships. I never dreamed of finding someone whom I have so much in common with emotionally, intellectually, interest wise. We are extremely tight but there's just one problem; she’s REALLY REALLY terrible in bed. When we make love, she always says the wrong things, she spoils the moment completely. Just one example amongst many - she tried playing out a dominating role and forced the words- “You get down there Son ". Immediately, thoughts of my mother started to pop into my head and I couldn’t stop laughing, completely put us both off. She also has this routine of arranging everything before sex- there always has to be toilet paper / tissues to mop up, the doors got to be locked etc etc.. It doesn’t ever feel spontaneous. Physically is even worse- every motion I make is counteracted, the only way to describe it is it feels like she’s fighting me, forcing me out of her- her rhythm is completely off. Sex with her doesnt feel natural at all, it feels forced, like we're wrestling. There's no spark- it's very strange. Also, she doesn’t make ANY noise so although she’s able to climax (for real), I have great difficulty knowing if I’m pushing the right buttons. A lot of the time I end up giving up because although I have no problem with an erection or sustaining one, I can’t get turned on enough to reach my peak! I’ve actually had to fake orgasms. Fortunately because we're so connected it isn’t that big a problem at the moment but this is such a shame because sex is important to me & I've experienced mind blowing sex with other girls before. I have tried talking with her about it several times but it's difficult because I dont want to hurt her. She's ried to alter her behaviour before but its sort of worse when she does. I'm basically asking anyone out there reading this who might be more experienced - Does it sound like were sexually incompatible? Do you think the problem is with me? Have you ever had similar experience with a lady / man?