She is too sensitive, easily got tickled

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by ILMW, Aug 10, 2006.

  1. ILMW

    ILMW New Member

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    I've just re-married for abt 1 month with a girl who is one year younger than I am. She has never had sex with anyone before, and she was quite conservative with the subject. We knew each other 6 months before wedding, and we got an agreement not to have coitus until wed. We honored the agreement and all that we shared sexually were kissing and touching our tops.

    The problems I am encountering now is that she is too much sensitive with my touch during foreplay. Wherever I touch, including vargina, she feel tickled, though I tried to change the pressure and ways of touching. She always feels very uncomfortable if I try to touch/lick on her clitoris. The only points that seem to make her comfortable and aroused are two nipples. Then normally I have to care them for quite a long time (more than 15 minutes) before when she is wet. But being wet doesn't mean I can go my way easily, at first she is very tight and we have to be very very slow, very very soft until I can fully get inside. I can prolong the thrusting pattern for as long as half an hour, and I can say I am quite creative in changing patterns, but I cannot drive her to climax. She seems to be comfortable when I get inside of her, but it seems there is no strong feelings.

    I have to add that we are very open in communicating abt the subject, about what we like and dislike, and that's why I got to know that she does not feel comfortable with any kind of playful touch on her clitoris, her inner thigh and almost all over her body (tickled). I know how to praise her beauty (she appreciates me very much for that). I know how to make a start, how to make her hot, but I can drive her to final destination.

    I love my wife, and I do want to lead her to the highest feeling that she deserves to get for her love for me. Anyone here have any suggestion?
     
  2. Puss_in_boots

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    Hmm..I think the ticklishness may be a nervous reaction, or it may be a sign that you're handling her a little too gently. I've noticed that it does often tickle when my man playfully touches me on my breasts or between my legs but only when I'm not aroused. When I'm horny it doesn't tickle at all. It may be that your wife is nervous or self-conscious because this is all new to her, and therefore she finds it difficult to relax and become fully aroused. I was going to suggest a nice massage beforehand but that may also tickle her. Maybe a glass or two of red wine would help.
     
  3. Rose

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    It does tend to 'tickle' a bit when first stimulating the clit. Especially if it is stimulated too soon.

    Being a virgin, she is still getting used to her sensations, I would imagine. Here's a suggestion: Try just brushing over her clit with your finger or your tongue, very softly, almost in a teasing way. Don't spend too much time at first. Make her want you to touch it again. If her thighs are too ticklish as well, then go from brushing over her clit to licking and kissing her lower stomach, and outer thighs... then brush the clit again.
     
  4. HerHubby

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    I agree with the posts above. Kindly speaking, if someone has not had sex before or has not had a lot of sex before, it does take quite a while to get used to it no matter how much you love your spouse or significant other especially if you have been as conservative about it as your wife has been. And sometimes body parts can be ticklish util one gets warmed up, so to speak. Normally my neck tends to be ticklish, however, when I start getting sexually stimulated, my neck becomes a very highly erotic zone, so to speak - when I get "sexually turned on", my wife could lick my neck and kiss my neck for hours and I would just be in ecstasy and moaning in pleasure it feels so good! When my wife and I were first married, although she'd had sex with a previous boyfriend and I'd had sex with a previous girlfriend, we were not as experienced as some people are nowadays. Of course, I had seen girlie magazines and masturbated a lot so, in that sense, I was more sexually experienced than she was. Anyway, it took us a while to adjust to having a sexual relationship even though we dearly loved each other. Back then (in the early 80s), we did not have as much pornography, etc. as we do nowadays. You had to go to a movie theatre to see it or get these little films and have a projector. Anyway, one night we had dinner at a restaurant and were starting to give each other signs of being horny. On the way home, we drove by this drive in theatre where they showed porno movies. My wife had never seen a porno movie, so I decided to just drive in there. My wife was startled but also intrigued so she went along with it (I remember feeling embarrassed as I bought the tickets, hoping I would not see that lady in public anywhere - not that she would remember me). Anyway, we found a place to park, hooked up the speaker and started watching the movie when it started. I guess there is something overwhelming about seeing sex up there on the big screen, however, as we watched it, my wife and I started reaching over and fondling each other. After a while, we noticed the cars around us with fogged up windows and rocking on their springs. I decided to ask my wife to pull her pants down and open her shirt so she did. I leaned over, started sucking her breasts and rubbed her very wet clit until she orgasmed very hard. Prior to that she had not been able to do oral sex very well, however, apparently she got a lot of instruction from the women up on the big screen because she pulled my pants down, leaned over and gave me the best "blow job" she had ever done! Afterwards, after we got the windows cleared off, we went back to the apartment where we were living and had mindless, howling sex for a couple of hours! Anyway, point being is that it will just take time and experience and growing more comfortable and secure in your marriage. Rose and Puss give some excellent suggestions above! All the best to you and your good wife!
     
  5. Lusty Dreams

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    What I like about his post is that he is more concerned about making sure she gets maximum pleasure herself. Instead of just getting his roxs off. Lucky woman!

    Be patient with her. Like the other's said, this is all new to her, and she is probably more nervous than anything.

    Movies, and other photo sensitive material are great for getting things heated up just like HerHubby stated :)
     
  6. ILMW

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    Hi all,

    I have just come back from a long biz trip, and just read your posts above, nice suggestions. I will try and come back soon.

    Thank you a lot.