I met a beautiful woman on an online dating website a couple days ago and since then we have been texting back and forth and even made a date for next weekend. We really hit it off and she told me that I sounded like a really great guy with a good head on my shoulders, she then said that since she really wanted to get to know me better, she had something to tell me. She told me that she had contracted herpes, not from being promiscuous but from a guy that she had been in a relationship with several years back when he hid it from her that he had it. She said that she wanted to be totally up front with me and I could decide if I wanted to continue to get to know her or not and that she understood if I didn't. I really admire her for telling me even though you could tell that she was really embarrassed doing so. I had to admit to her that I was ignorant about herpes and she told me to ask her anything about it and she was very forthcoming with her answers. I would just like to know if there are those that are dating, married, or in a relationship with someone who has herpes and how do they deal with it. I am big on giving oral, is that still something I can do if she is not actively infected, do you always have to use a condom to avoid catching it or just during an outbreak. I wouldn't want to let a good person get away if it is something we can get around without me catching it. Please respond if you can give me some answers.