I'm curious to know if anyone here has read Dr. Ian Kerner's She Comes First - The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. Personally I found it to be extremely informative. It's very witty, well-written, and (most importantly) it isn't condescending. It's got plenty of detailed info on male and female sexuality and their misconceptions, along with diagrams of female anatomy (which any man worth his salt should know!) and techniques as well. Basically it asks the reader (typically male, I guess) to place cunnilingus on a higher status in regards to the sexual act. Most men view oral sex as foreplay to penetration (or fucking, whichever you like), but this book asks you to treat your partner with reverence and put her needs before your own - hence the title. It's got an extensive break-down of the female orgasm - how you can tell she's close to coming (darkening in color of the labia, among other telltale signs). I've noticed a plethora of "Is my cock big enough?" threads around this place since I started lurking here, and I think a lot of that worry would be laid to rest if more men were willing to do what this book asks of them. It's a paradigm shift for the way we as men might typically view sex. I'm not above those worries, certainly, being average (if not slightly below) at just under 6" in length and just over 4" in girth, but my inadequacy issues with size are diminished with my growing knowledge of female anatomy and the female sexual response. Even though I'm a virgin I'm confident that I'll have at least some ability to please my partner without hopelessly floundering around and wondering what I'm doing down there. To quote from the book, "Sex is no longer penis-dependent, and we can let go of the usual anxieties about size, stamina, and performance. We are free to love with more of ourselves, with our entire self." I know this probably looks like some thinly-veiled attempt to sell copies of this book, but I've just got so much praise for it. The reason I posted this thread was to find out if any other members have read it, and if so, what your results have been from putting the knowledge found in this book into practice in the bedroom. EDIT - Also, I've noticed that since I joined I can't seem to find the Adult Multimedia forum. Is there any particular reason for this that I didn't notice in the rules?