sexually fraustrated....

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  1. Xdragon

    Xdragon New Member

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    I am a woman...26 years old and have had only two male partner in my life. The first was my ex husband and now my new fiance. He never had a gf before me and has been single untill we met again. We have known one another since we were born but long story short we went our seperate ways and now reunited again. We hit it off good but now I just don't like how things are going with our sexual life.

    It started out as a long distance relationship. We would talk every night and make love thru the phone. He was the first guy to ever let me exp such a thing call a dilto or phone sex, teaching me how to pleasure myself, write me romantic love story, tell me on the phone what he wants to do to me in the most romantic way. He is caring and always make sure its about my pleasure.

    Just for the past month I moved in with him. He the sweetest guy ever but sometime he would kiss me and make me wet and then have me give him oral sex. I would resist as we are sharing a condo w his sibling and didn't want to get caught. But he would push my head down and shove it in my mouth. I love him and know it will give him pleasure so I do it. After me cum, id kiss him restart the fire....but he would put a stop to it. At first I didn't care. But its been happening too often. I would still be horny as hell but just learned to controll it as I thought to myself " don't want to get caught"

    But he's doing it so often now that I askec him one day and was honest with him. On the phone is diff from real person. His reason was that we might get caught. Eh um...so what about when I give him oral...he wasn't worry about being caught so I was like wtf. Our conversation didn't go no where.

    Just today we went to order hotdogs. I told him I like brats better as its bigger. I didn't mean it to be sexual but he joked and said "you always like it bigger" and so I got fraustrated at him and stated "don't matter its not like I get any" he was mad that all I think of was sex. Which I don't but when he make me feel like he don't care and turn it around like that I don't appreciate.

    I don't want sex to be a big deal but I feel like it is. I just needed to rant. Any insight will be appreciated. I have a lot questions and what if but not sure where to start.
     
  2. sayss18

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    It sounds like he is focusing on his needs but neglecting yours, it's not fair on you. It's really frustrating when you give your partner an orgasm but then they are too tired and you're just left aroused and horny, excited and tingling with anticipation but no prospect of relief.

    Perhaps you need to show him what to do to please you. In private, say in the shower or bedroom, could you create a seductive atmosphere but instead of intercourse or oral sex you masturbate in front of him and show him what pleases you and gives you orgasm. Hopefully he will learn how enjoyable it is to give as well as receive pleasure during sex.
     
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    You need to take sexual control of him...For starters try this on for size (no pun intended lol)...he doesn't get a damn thing of sexual gratification from you until he eats your pussy for as long as you want him to! I would make him EAT THAT PUSSY big time before he gets anything himself!
     
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    take control force him its not like its a stranger on the train
     
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    yeah hold out on him, tell him to eat you out until you cum on his face. its not fair to you that he gets his then thats it. thats not how its supposed to work.
    you say your 26 but.....
    how old is he???

    also if the above does not work, play hard bal and tell him you think you guys should see other people cause you dont feel loved and appreciated!!
     
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    Girl, he's using you as a cum bucket. Split.
     
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    ^^^ agreed ^^^
     
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    What they say above else another divorce looming :(
     
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    Maybe he's not as nice a person as you think he is.
     
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    Welcome to the forum Borat....is true I like make the sexy time with escort, and have romance explosion on her stomach....isa your seeester still 3rd best prostitute?
     
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    It doesn't sound like he likes sex, he just needs it to overpower you and he gets that...for now. Dump him and scrutinize people better in the future. Men fake it over the phone as much as women do and they can do so in forums too.

    Several face-to-face meetings are required by me before I ever think of getting near anyone. Study his body language and if he is impatient with others around him. He is likely in a hurry. It doesn't sound like he likes to make out or get turned on by face-to-face kissing and touching if all he wants is your head rammed between his legs.
     
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    Next time he tries to force you to give him a blowjob, go along with it, then bite his dick off

    *shrug* He should realize it's never a good thing to put your dick between a pair of teeth that are made for cutting, especially when you do it against the other person's will.
     
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    Thanks for all the input. This really help me out.
     
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    Maybe her vahhgine hang like sleeve of wizard? Or maybe his truck not equipped with the magnet of pussy?
     
  15. 12barblues

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    Funny you mention the " sleeve of wizard" line , because that's still one of the funniest lines I've ever heard in a movie....:lol that whole description of his wife was hilarious....
    Sorry, off topic, I know.....