Sexual frustration in my marriage

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  1. Obsession

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    myself and my wife were first dating for 7 years before we got married, then we tied the knot. We now married almost 2 yrs. She is 25 and im 27. Im was and still a horny amd kinky freak and obsessed with alot of sexual fatansys and bets do anythng sexual. Wen we first dated she wasnt much into sex, but got her into it and we had a normal sex life, having it all possible places but she wasnt into foreplay and trying out different positions. Thats was our sex life for many years at that time i was okay with it. Im like exploring and trying out lots of different things. Wen we got married sex became usuals and boring to me altho she loved it. We spoke about it on numerous occasions and explaining to her my expectations but also bearing that she feels comfortable as well, trying different positions, foreplay, coming in her mouth, anal sex etc.......i eventual got her into it and neva lasted long, i even bought her first vibrator to spice things up and now its a ornament in storage, only used abt twice over a 5 month period. Her sex drive is not the same, and she know im always horny. We recently spoke about her changing towards my sexual needs and she admits that she will give her all and satisfying my needs and giv me all wat i want. It only last for a week and then goes to where we were. I love my wife and wont go behind her back cheat because im not getting the satisfaction i want from her. Sometimes i wish i could be with some1 that shares the exact same mad sexaul, horny sex drive that i have. Im on alot of sex forums and get sometime very jealous of all the horny females out there that go out their way to satisfy their men. My wife knows im on all this sex forums and i have a stack of porn that i watch alone and she doesnt seem interested in watching it with me. What advise do u guys for me? Anybody in the same boat. All i want is consistency in sexual relationship and not do the same old boring positions over and over. Wat i try to explain to her she shouldnt be afaid to try new things cz it might turn out into something tht she totally enjoys, but she cant seem to grasp that.
     
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  2. Insane451

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    Ok well is she on any birth control like the pill or depo? Because a side effect of a lot of birth control is a lower sex drive, my wife had a really low sex drive while on birth control but she now has an iud and she's back to her sex drive of when we were younger. Second thing is maybe that's just how she is, just like you have a naturally high sex drive she just might have a naturally low sex drive, but the key to a good marriage is communication and compromise. And last, one thing that helped my wife, more than me, and I was a pod cast that I found one day about sex. My wife was really shy and conservative when it came to sex when we first started dating, to the point where she wouldn't take off her shirt, but we grew in our sexuality together but she was always more reserved than me. But since listening to this pod cast she became more open to try new things and realize its not a bad thing to enjoy sex, and I since listening to the pod cast have learned to not be a selfish lover and be a more giving lover. I don't know all the details about your relationship so I hope this helps. And I don't know all the rules about posting about pod casts and what not, so if you want the name of the podcast send me a message and I'll let you know what it is.
     
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    Will you people please break up your posts into smaller paragraphs? Make for much easier reading.
     
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    Sorry about that I just got on a role and kept typing
     
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    I think he meant Obsession's post, your's is on the edge of needing one.
     
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    I wouldn't know what to say exactly but how is the environment at home? Is it just you two? Maybe you can tell her what you like...have her tell you what she like and the limit she will take if you both try something new .

    For example when I first tried using a dilitos (is the spelling even right :p) it hurted and I stopped using it for a very long time. Until I bought a diff one in size...made a huge diff. Go shopping for toys with her...setup romantic dinner for you two... I hope this help as I'm not an expert myself.
     
  7. cbrmale

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    Both posts really need some paragraphs.

    I have a question for Obsession. Is your wife African? If so then you will find that African culture is rather sexual in that few men married to African women will complain about having no sex, but African culture is also very vanilla when it comes to sex. Not so long ago Africans regarded oral sex as taboo and thought Europeans to be sexually peverts.

    My wife is Zimbabwean (Zezuru) and she is very much like your wife. She wants to please me and we try new things, but soon enough her desire for 'just plain fucking' takes over and it slips back to that again. So if your sife is African then it might be a conflict between her background of traditional African sexual values against your background which has been influenced by Europeans sexual practices.