Sexual Dreams and the Subconscious

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  1. JTS

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    I am curious as to how many people out there, whether single or in a relationship, have had dreams of sexual nature that they feel that they could never do in real life, but are so strong that they feel that maybe subconsciously they'd like to try. In other words, are there things going on in your head that may be coming out in your dreams semi-regularly that no way your upbringing would allow you to experience, but if no one like friends and family could find out about, you'd definitely go for. My g/f recently had an orgy dream, but she comes from a conservative family background so, just as an example, it seems as if she may repress subconscious desires. We watch porn of group sex activities, mostly multiple men with one woman, and she orgasms hard. But when asked, she always says no way she could actually do it. Do people feel that recurring dream themes could be your subconsious desires telling you what your really want to do? What other examples do you have? Thanks.
     
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    man, i dunno...if my dreams are my desires trying to become reality.....i better stop sleeping....lol
     
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    In all your girlfriend could figure that out. Is it something she wants to do?
    A subconscious dream state does pick up on what goes on throughout the day, what we think about, and more so what is troubling us, sex is a strong human drive so people often have sexual related dreams.
    But for example, subconscious sexual dreams are entwined with other roots from our subconscious.
    Let's say someone dreams of a giant orgy, but this person is normally very conservative, and let's say they are afraid of large groups. In this case the subconscious would be telling that person more about their fear of people, and perhaps their anxiety of speaking in large crowds (it can be something as simple and mundane as that) but it just so happens to mix with their sexual drive.

    Let's take a ridiculous example: let's say I dreamed about shooting a person in the face. That doesn't necessarily mean I want to shoot a person in the face... oh lordy no. When you dissect the subconscious aspect of a dream, you have to figure out what it means on a deeper psychological level. For me if I had a dream of pulling a gun on someone, I would obviously have some deeper root issues to look at, perhaps something really pissed me off during the day.
    If I dreamed of having a giant orgy, it doesn't necessarily mean I secretly want to have a giant orgy. Who knows, that dream might even disgust me once I wake up. In the most simple case scenario, it could just mean I was horny, and happened to be dreaming of a public situation at the same time, and things just led into it.

    I've had sex dreams before, I wish I had more now, but lately....
    My sex related dreams are the worst. Because in the dreams my worst fear comes true. I can't get laid. My sex dreams tend to be based on my issues with my current abstinence, and my overal fear of not having sex. Thus I dream of constant scenarios of trying to get in someones pants but being rejected. Or even if i'm not rejected they take so long to get to the point, that i wake up before anything happens. And then i wake up feeling very mad and flustered to say the least.

    But on the other hand, my sex addict friend, his sex dreams haunt him every night, triggering him, and he dreams very vivid dreams of very terrible sexual acts that are past related to his subconscious, things he used to do that he regrets.

    And I also know many people who have sex dreams related to the past, even terrible cases where people dream of being raped, and suffered a past of sexual abuse.

    But the coolest thing of all is lucid dreaming, and astral travelling. I can have sex with my spirit guides and inter dimensional beings without ruining my physical real life abstinence, and it is great! Having sex with my spirit guide is intense. And he is hot.
    I'm still undecided if it's a good thing or not. I keep thinking that perhaps I shouldn't be disrespecting all knowing and loving high frequency beings in that way.
     
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    ^TLTR

    Ive asked myself plenty of times if something actually happened or if it was dream. Sometimes I really dont know either
     
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    Thunderseed: I appreciate the response (except the last paragraph I'm not sure what that's about). But one thing I'll say is you were right on about something. My g/f's dream about an orgy didn't actually involve getting in the midst of one. Rather, it was like there was a number of good looking people deciding to go have one, and my g/f was not selected to go with. My g/f is actually very nice looking woman, but I think she's at an age where she's comparing herself to these younger 20 yr olds and feeling inadequate. She/we watch the Bachelor as well as group sex pornos, and I think there may be something to what you say about the dream speaking to some other issue(s) buried within our subconscious. With the Bachelor, there is that selection process going on where you're trying to be the best, the number one hot person, not getting eliminated. And it's sexual too. Maybe she morphed the Bachelor with our pornos. Hahahaha...
     
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    **TL;DR (unless you mean too long to read).

    Inb4 Freud.
     
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    I know a lot about dreams. In dreams, the id (which controls your instinctual urges are largely unrestrained.) Reproduction, and therefore sex is given higher than usual priority in dreams. :)
     
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    Most of my sexually oriented dreams were realistic and possible.
    The freaky thing is that lookingback at them I dreamed of thing that happened later on. They didn't make sense or got me thinking and wondering then the light came on once they happened.

    Only a few I COULD have made happen, some I'm not quite sure but they involved married women friends with the ex, some giving me the vibe I could have. Usually my dreams and flashes of insights were true.
    Still better to stay clear. One being ex's sister, I knew I could have done it as she gave me hints.
     
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    When I was younger I woke up loads of times wondering what the hell that dream was about to find out it was real. I also came round drunk having sex in a carpark with someone I've never seen before, classy bloke me.

    Likewise I've had dreams that have felt so real (had a great sex session with Madonna and Naomi Campbell about 10 years sgo) Sometimes it's suppressed desires other times I've just seen something, gone to sleep with it in my head and dreamt about it.
     
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    What Freud didn't really concern himself with, I believe, is that sex is so important to the id not only because of the primal urge to sexually relieve ones self of conquer; but also for the continuation of the human species. While the later seems like it would be governed by the ego; but it is neither a secondary nor an auxiliary facet. Many animals exhibit the same drive to continue their species.