Sexual Awakening (or lack thereof)

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by HaplessRomantic, Aug 14, 2007.

  1. HaplessRomantic

    HaplessRomantic New Member

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    I hope that this post doesn't come across as one big whine, but I just can't help but feel that the spark of sexuality hasn't lit my wick yet. I'm a powder keg of horniness, but I just get the impression that sex is for everyone but me. I know, it's silly and childish and unrealistic. But whenever I'm around friends who are talking about sex I basically have to keep quiet. Whenever I'm at parties it seems like nobody is attracted to me (or they don't show it), despite my best efforts. I just feel like the world of sex is so alien to me, that it isn't meant for someone like me. I don't know - maybe I've been watching too much porn and it's fucking up my perception of things. I just feel like I'm not a sexually desirable person and that my sex drive is either dead or hasn't been born yet. Has anyone else ever felt this way? Does anyone here still feel this way now?
     
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    Hapless you say
     
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    Keep trying. Don't worry so much about it so much. You'll find a great lady, and if you treat her well, and love her, you'll get to have sex with her. So, just be happy you're alive and keep up the effort.
     
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    Hi Hapless

    When you said, "I just feel like I'm not a sexually desirable person"

    That speaks volumes.

    If you don't feel sexy about yourself, make no mistake about it, others too will find it difficult to see you as sexually attractive.

    The folks that find it dead easy to pull people, almost always feel great about themselves. And that positive energy is vibrant and attractive even though it might be difficult to pin down.

    I think you need to work on your positive aspects and learn to realise that you are as good as the next person at the party.

    Also don't always believe some of the tall stories with friends. A lot of people talk bollocks to impress people.

    Some of the folks that bragg about their exploits, in reality don't get half the action they mention.

    Feel positive about yourself and good luck buddy.
     
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    Stay positive..you will attract the right one