[Ask a Girl] Sexless Relationship

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  1. WillsWood

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    Hi, let me explain a bit about my situation first.
    I'm 46, 6'3", slim and fit. People often think I'm younger (late 30's) and I have a libido to match. I'm in a sexless relationship and have been for about 10 years. For the first few years our sex life was really amazing which makes being without it even worse. My wife would love to be able to have that part of our relationship back and has seen a lot of medical professionals in the hope of someone being able to help.
    I love my wife very much and do not want to cheat on her but porn really is no substitute for what we had.
    The question is do you think sexting with another woman would be a reasonable way to help fill the hole in my life? If so is the the right place to find someone who would like to chat, flirt and sext longer term or could anyone point me to good site?
    Thanks for taking the time to read this.
     
  2. Mittimer

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    It's not acceptable to do that at all. If it's something you would hide from your wife, you shouldn't do it nor should you be searching for someone to help you do that here.
     
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    Hi Mittimer, sorry I should have said that this would be with my wife's knowledge and permission.
     
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    At which time she'll file for divorce for adultery and take you to the cleaners. Just file papers, she already knows why, and move on.
     
  5. biker061

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    you don't mention why she can't 'have sex' any longer? there are many ways to 'have sex' that you may need to discover together if there is a reason you can't do what you used to do.
    but more directly IMHO sexting or similar activity is not the answer!
    good luck & welcome
     
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    Is her mouth broken? Are both hands cut off? Get a fleshlight and get her involved. You don't fall in love with a fleshlight.
     
  7. WillsWood

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    Valid point and it made me realise the potential risks so sexting is not for me.
     
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    I hope for your partners sake that you're not really as shallow as your comment suggests you are!
     
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    I'm new to the group so I don't want to come on too strong. I don't think that would be a good idea. Aside from my own opinion that it's not appropriate, no matter how good your intentions are regarding you wife, I can't help but think that this would start to drive a wedge between the two of you. At some point you might be tempted to cross the line and cheat on her. Small steps can lead to big ones. I don't see how after some time, or maybe right away, you won't break your wifes heart. And, on top of that, do you really want this kind of thing out in the wireless world? Look what it did to Anthony Wiener.
     
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    It's time to move on
     
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