My wife is a very attractive 50 something and I am said to be attractive as well. My wife went through menopause a few years ago and lost interest in sex. She didn't stop right away she just always seemed uninterested. About one year ago she just started refusing altogether. Once this happened she claims her vagina walls became thin and to uncomfortable for sex. I'm not ready to stop so she got a script from her Gyno for vagasil I think, but I couldn't get her to use it. Last attempt at sex was so painful sounding from her I pulled out the couple of inches I got in and told her I couldn't do it with her being in obvious pain. She has still not used the cream which is said to be a godsend to most women since taking hormones is to dangerous. She has told me she is very content with never having sex, I am not. I still desire her and feel she has abandoned me. She has given me two hand jobs in the past year and nothing for almost 10 months. I don't know what to do, she will not give me oral and really never has, she says it's degrading. I have always been very generous with oral for her and she always loved it but none for me. What the hell do I do, we've been married over 30 years.