I'm not even married, for those who don't know. But i got thinking, due to various other threads on here. A sexless marriage is those who have sex less than 10 times a year. The Big No: The truth about sexless marriage - relationships - TODAYshow.com But it also takes into account that some couples who don't have high drives are more than content with a "sexless" marriage, and it isn't really sexless, because they don't have a problem with it. 3 main reasons for sexless marriage are loss of communication, repeated rejection and neglect. I couldn't imagine myself ever being in a sexless marriage, but then again i could- i can be spiteful when i get mad and i could see myself not giving sex if i were upset with them, hopefully i won't be upset for months! What i don't understand...is that if you loved someone you would sacrifice on occasion, to give them a sexual experience with you involved, even if it is just holding them while they touch themselves. And you wouldn't have to do it daily. The average i've seemed to pick up is about 2 times a week, for your average married/defacto couple to have sex. So, if not even once a month you would include yourself in that, or even once a fortnight. I understand sometimes women, and maybe men, get into moods where sex is absolutely out of the question (to a point where they ragingly loathe it and everything to do with it- i get it). But i still think, once a month, there would be a day that they wouldn't mind at least helping out being present with their partner, for their sake! I'm sure most people are just out of the mood, and if loathing sex is involved it is usually because there's something wrong in the relationship. If it is withheld so much and to such a degree, it seems that it's not just a "sex" thing, unless they are selfish. Then it could be. I'm sorry if i offend, i just don't like the idea of getting married and then having a sexless marriage. So i guess i'm doing my "pre-search" Am i wrong? I'm not saying I'm right, so please share your experience with this.