I know that a lot of guys, when they first start having sexual relations with a new girl, are really worried about trying to satisfy her and it is precisely that sort of anxiety that can lead to under performance in the bedroom. Let’s define the terms for the sake of this argument: you’ve gone on a few dates, you definitely like the person, you’re attracted to him or her, you’re ready to have sex, and then it’s…awful. Not “meh,” sex, not “it was fine for me” sex, but like, so bad that you’re already mentally composing the text you’ll send to your best friend the second this is over. So bad it’s just embarrassing for the both of you. Do you try again? Well me being 29 and only having had one sexual partner I am worried about this. My only sexual experience was not that great for me the girl just kinda do nothing. Sure I was happy not to be a virgin anymore that help out a ton. OK without going into to much detail she was a female friend from a few years back and we ran into each other and estranged numbers. Long story short we hung out ,I stupidly told her I was a virgin , she said i do not care I have been wanting to sleep with you for years ,had sex it was great . The bad I had to do every thing and she just laid there . There was no passion or foreplay at all and no lights on and would not try anything other then missionary. On a good note she said she I was the only one ever to give her and orgasm her last few bf could not. I know she did because I read up on that and it seems like she did . The bad part I did not climax at all even after a good 30-45 min of me putting in work for lack of better words. That went on for 6 months she called it off in a text and she moved on to a new bf with in a week. Now that I am 29 and all that happen a few years ago so it all behind me. I just worry that seeing I am working full time and college full time gives me no time to date. I kinda gave up to focus on college and getting a good job. I however worry once I get school done and start dating a girl what do guys like me do when having sex with a new girl for the first time? lest say it been a few dates and she wants invites me in and things get hot ? just go with the flow and be as confident as I can. Then what if the sex is bad on my part hope she still wants to date me? Should I stop making out with her and take her hand and look into her eyes and say hey I do not know how to say this but I am not very experienced when it comes to dating and sex. then see how she responds to that? Do I say anything afterwards so if the sex is bad she might understand? One other option is say noting and if she ends it so be it. I just know it would total relax me if she know I was not all to experienced in bed even thought it does not sound very confident for a man to admit to it. One last thing it going to be 1-2 years before i can date so it going to be a while. Also should I just try to hook up in one night stands or FWB in the mean time to get better in bed?