Sex with my new (virgin) girlfriend

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    klasman New Member

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    So i just started going out with a new girl. I just found out she is ABSOLUTLY a virgin, no previous fingering, oral, or anything. So, i know we are going to do it very soon, she is as horny as i can expect her to be, but i still dont know for sure what to do when the day comes, any suggestions??
     
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    Be very gentle and supportive with her.
    She will experience pain when her hymen busts.
    That is if you get that far the first time.
    If she says stop then stop (no still means no)
    It may take you a few times to get the job done
    but have a ton of patience if needed.
    And Never Never loose patience with Her[/C:sf
     
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    OK that was an easy one, plz elaborate on the feeling of the busting himen, and some advice to not do it worse...thnx a lot! (the day may be today)
     
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    Depending on her age, she most likely did it her self masturbating or just playing sports in high school.
     
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    Be gentle, caring, supportive, trusting, and loving, as every man should be. Do all you can to make her first experience a positive one. Lots of foreplay, hugs, kisses, snuggles. Spend time pleasuring her long before actual penetration. Make sure she is aware that SHE is in control, and that you will stop at any time she requests. Take things slow. Aside from that, there is little you can do to ease the pain of her first time.
     
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    Well said Heelfetish:sf
     
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    I'll second Heel, take it slow. Dont rush having sex the first day you guys start fooling around. Let her tell you when she is ready, it can (not saying it will) take some time for her to build up enough courage to go all the way. She needs to feel trusted by you and know you are there for more then just sex (ie a real relationship) Be up for anything because she can and might suprise you. Depending on her age, she has had a lot of time to think of what she wants and how she wants it be an open book. Communicate with her often she you know where she is and you know she knows where she wants to be. GOOD LUCK!!!
     
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    She probably already ripped her hymen if she uses tampons.
     
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    Do any of you girls remember if it hurt the first time,or did you bleed.

    Klasman that is one thing that may scare her is if she bleeds.Its normal.

    For me I can't remember.I have been married 100 years.LOL
     
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    I remember that I bleed but it didnt hurt for me. We first thought I started mid sex but that wasnt the case. It wasnt alot of blood but enough to notice
     
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    I dont remember when i ripped mine. I prob did it with tampons and obviously I was already bleeding.
     
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    wow great advising, how about oral and fingering? i consider myself as an expert on it, so, should i do it and not penetrate her for a couple of times?
     
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    I think I tore my hymen before my first time because there was no blood at all. It still hurt like hell, though. However, when one of my one of my high school girlfriends lost her virginty, she said there was so much blood that she and her partner were actually quite worried.
     
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    I very definitely recommend oral and fingering
    as a form of foreplay, The oral I would leave till you have
    fucked her the first time, But the finger is a real form
    of foreplay the most people do all the time and should
    be a part of every lovemaking session.

    Hiker
    :sf
     
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    I remember ripping my frenulum (banjo string) during a heavy bout of sex and it hurt like hell, but it was the best thing that ever happened to me for ease of rolling back the foreskin.
    I think that many boys are circumcised unnecessarily and a simple snip to release tension on the foreskin would do the same job.
     
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    You should go one step at a time, so advanced stuff like oral may be best left until she has a little experience. As far as fingering goes, there is nothing that can prepare her for penetration other than arousal AT THAT TIME. So you can arouse her and penetrate her first time if you and she wants to have penetration, or you can arouse her several times before you penetrate her and it will be substantially the same.

    So don't feel pressured NOT to penetrate if you both want to, the key is arousal for her at the time you do it. And when it is over, it is over and sex will be good for her from then on.

    The other thing is if you girl is aware it can and probably will hurt, then she won't be in for a big shock. The pain of the known is easier to take than an ugly surprise.
     
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    I say go for that stuff first and build up to sex. I think she might need a few foreplay sessions to work up to intercourse.
     
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