Sex with a very experienced man

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  1. sensless

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    I'm craving that. It's been a long time I've had sex with an experienced man who really knew what he was doing in bed. I crave it like mad. I don't mean anything about age. Some people are in their twenties, or thirties and know how to fuck a woman the way she needs it.

    I'm free to fuck whoever I want, but I just can't find that man. When I start to flirt and pull the conversation into the sex field to gauge my flirt, I end up realizing he isn't that experienced and I lose interest.

    This last man I was flirting with, he seemed so interesting. Well, he is very interesting. Not physically attractive, but intelligent and if a man is intelligent, I don't care for his appearance, he's beautiful to me. But when we started talking about sex, and I was pretty convinced I would fuck him, some of his comments made me see he wasn't experienced. He ended up telling me this himself and asked me to tell him what to do and he'd do anything I'd want. But if I have to tell, it isn't the same! I was so disappointed! I had the female version of the blue balls thing!

    I'm so tired of taking initiative and having to tell him what to do. I want to be swept off my feet sexually.

    I have plenty of sex, and good sex, plenty of orgasms, but not THAT kind of sex.

    Does anyone feel the same?
     
  2. djanalyst

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    mmm. if only you were closer. ;)
     
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    If you was in my area you would not need to tell me
     
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    If you were close to me (UK) I wouldn't make any promises but you could certainly judge for yourself ;)
     
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    I think I will add my name to the list of interested men who love pleasing.
     
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    Using myself as an example, a man while have no problem either taking the lead or hearing instructions.
    If you were to tell me if I use my tongue to write the alphabet, I would do this to satisfy you and once I know what you like, I know what to do when it matters after enjoying the ride to your orgasm(s). It all depends.
    My friend used to like being told but sometimes took the lead, vice versa, we felt at ease either ways asking, doing, being told.
    I guess in your case it could be a lack of confidence or assertiveness from a guy probably capable, or maybe not? You get the gist.
     
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    I've had sex about an hour ago, between two visits to SF. It was great and we both got a lot out of it. But it was again my initiative and I was again kind of leading it. It was great and I'm not saying bad things about him. I always have my orgasms.

    But I miss a man initiating it and leading it. And surprising me.

    I'm not talking about domination, just a man who leads, who is creative.
     
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    I agree. I don't think that it is as much about "experience" as it is about selflessness. Since you seem to be talking about one night stands, this may be hard to come by. In my experience the best sex comes from each partner knowing the other's turn ons and special erogenous zones. There is a lot of trial and error that goes into that.
     
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    I agree with you about the best sex happening between partners who know each other well. However, I really enjoy the new, the unknown, the difference. It doesn't need to be better. It's variety.

    There are men out there that are extraordinary lovers. They're pure magic. I've met a few. Women, too.
     
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    Hard to predict who they are without trying them out. Some lovers are great without the experience.
     
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    True, some are natural.
     
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    And some have done their research.
     
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    A experienced man is not only good at sex,But he can add many feelings inside you that you never knew you had!!..My first was 45 when I was 19,It wasnt a wham bam thing,He nurtured me,Wasnt in a hurry,Made me feel special but most of all he understood what was needed at the time and dint force anything on me.JMO
     
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    Yes!!! I was texting w diesel today. Talking about the good times. ;-)
     
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    I kinda agree I would love an experience man. Who takes control. I am coming from a not so good place where a lot has been lacking. I am not looking for one night stands though at my age I want something more.
     
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    Some men leave only good memories!

    In my case, it's only about the wham bam thing.

    I'm sorry to know things were not the best in your past situation, Sweetlysad. *hug, hug*
    You're such a sweet, intelligent and beautiful person, I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for.
     
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