Sex Toys, MFM, Etc.

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  1. BinghamtonNY

    BinghamtonNY Member

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    I'm a 32 year old married man with a wife who was formerly quite sexually conservative. She is getting much more adventurous. Advice would be greatly appreciated.
    Here's some info about my situation that i've posted on other message boards out on the web:

    I seriously want to try mfm. Here's my situation. Any reasonable
    suggestions would be appreciated.

    I've been fantasizing about mfm for quite some time now. My wife is 5
    and a half months pregnant, had some concerns about pregnancy early
    on but everything is going well. Between being worried (she had two
    miscarriages after we had our son) and has been feeling nautious, she
    hasn't been feeling sexual.

    She's always been conservative and a few years ago wouldnt have even
    considered watching porn. But lately she asks that we sometimes watch
    it during foreplay. She is picky and always fast forwards thru lez,
    anal, and believe it or not hates to watch pussy eating.....

    However, she always watches mfm. She does not talk about it but it
    gets her really wet. One time a mfm scene was on video and we started
    having sex, she came extremely fast and it was intense.

    I told her how cool it is that she is ok with watching group sex. She
    went on to say she hates two women. So I said what about two guys
    where one has regular sex and other receives oral. She said, "I guess
    thats the best scenario."

    How do I get her to be open to this in real life? She usually is set
    in her ways, but a few weeks for the first time she actually let me
    cum on her face. Although she said being preg she isnt feeling sexual
    I told her how much I wanted to do it and a few days later she asked
    me if I was ready. It was awesome!! Since then she's let me shoot on
    her face three more times

    I have what may be some good news as far as getting her into mfm. She
    just mentioned that one of her friends uses "toys." She thought it
    was weird since I had asked her only about a week ago if her friend
    uses toys (I thought it could help bring up the idea of mfm). This
    friend of hers seems to talk about sex a lot (thats a reason I
    brought up the toy thing).

    Anyway I'm really surprised. My wife actually seems open to the idea
    of toys. She used to be TOTALLY against it. From what I gather it
    would be for vaginal stimulation. So I told her about me envisioning
    her lying on her back with her head turned to the side and giving me
    a bj like she usually does during foreplay and using the toy instead
    of me using her finger. She seemed interested!! I'm thinking this
    could help the whole MFM thing. If I get her a toy and we do this
    I'll tell her to imagine it's a REAL dick inside of her as she's
    blowing me. She seems to take the same position as the mfm scenes
    when we have foreplay, she lays on her back and blows me while I
    finger her.

    But I really want to try MFM. Seeing her get so much pleasure would
    be awesome. Please help!


    Posted: Sun Dec 03, 2006 1:21 pm Post subject: Wife's Dreams Friday Night - Your Input Appreciated

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    Yesterday morning she woke up saying she had some dreams I'd really love to hear but she wanted to wait until night and would tell me then. I was in great suspense. The previous evening we had talked about sex, toys, etc, and she also gave me a blowjob, letting me cum on her face (She's new to facials and is still a bit nervous about it) The rule is it can only go on her cheek so the way she aimed it the first two good shots actually missed her cheek and went off to the side. But, hey I can't complain.
    So she told me of her dreams which included several different situations. She mentioned one part where we used food on her tits during sex (we tried this years ago and it didn't do much for us). I also ejaculated all over her tits and rubbed it on her nipples. The next involved the fantasy I had previously spoke of the night before. She was blowing me and at the same time she had a dildo in her pussy. It was the kind of dildo that has suction cups at the base and it was stuck to a chair. I asked her where she let me cum in her dream and she said below her chin and on her neck. The next part was perhaps even more interesting. We were having regular sex and the dildo was rubbing by her butt. (She hates the idea of anal but rubbing near (not in) her butthole with my finger during sex is something the she likes on occasion).
    So I figured this was a perfect opportunity. I had said to her before she started telling me the dream that no matter what she dreamt about it was okay with me. I asked her how come she watches DP (reg sex and anal) on video when she hates anal. She said that she only watches it if one dick is in the "correct hole" and also went on to say that she likes the woman's reaction to it about how turned on they get on video. I told her I'm really cool with her liking this. I also went on to say how if she was into lesbian scenes I would feel a bit threated (i dont know why). She said she hates lesbian and thats why she always fast forwards through them. I told her I'd be into trying everything that she dreamt about and how important it is to make nice dreams a reality if you can.

    Please folks, would love your input. What's going on here in your opinion? If you haven't done so already, please c&p link to my earlier post so you'll have background info on us.

    Posted: Wed Dec 06, 2006 1:15 am Post subject: Best Toys What do you recommend women

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    For the first time in our relationship my wife has talked about using toys and actually had a dream involving a toy (the type in the dream she said looked like a real penis). I asked her about the brightly colored ones and we looked at ones online but she seems to be into the more realistic looking ones. Her friend mentioned something about using some type of "egg". I've seen them online. Just for my own information, what do they do?
    What types of toys would you recommend from your own experience or talking to others? She would use it for vaginal penetration and also for anal stimulation but not penetration.

    I was thinking of one about the same thickness as mine but maybe 9 inches long or so. I'm just curious how much she can take in.
    You can see my previous post involving her interest in toys, etc here:
  2. MikeDog

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    I'm not sure what to say except for the girl it must be an incredible experience to be the center of all the attention in the middle of a MFM.

    If she wants to keep it a fantasy using the toys or DVDs are a great way to imagine it. The mind is the best sex organ. It's a big step to go into real life MFM. You both need to be 100% sure and think/talk it over more after her pregancy.

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    I have done a MFM with a casual friend (two casual friends?) and it was, um, interesting. Very different to a FFM threesomes (I had a bisexual girlfriend once), so much more intense. The girl was, well, perfect. Yes, it was an interesting dynamic, and I am glad I did it, and I know she enjoyed it too.

    What more can I say, male sexual drive is very powerful and focussed, so it doesn't surprise me that some women get turned on by being the centre of this power and drive. I saw her, she loved it, and we were both respectful of her role in it all, as all gentlemen should be.
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    To begin with it is a big leap to be going from wathcing a mfm scene in a porn movie to actually having one yourself. When it comes to fantasy and reality in regard to threesomes there is a big difference. From the sounds of it your wife is open to the fantasy end of it but I suspect she may want to keep it in the fantasy world.

    The best way to get the proverbal ball rolling is to speak with her about your desire outside of the bedroom and get her feeling on it. During the discussion be open about what you are wanting but at the same time do not manipulate her into doing it. Take the time to listen to her feelings on it and understand any limitations that she may have. Also if she is "dead set" against it do not pressure her into doing it and let the subject die for at least six months to a year. After ample time has passed bring it up again to see if she has changed her mind. Sometimes the idea is too much for a partner to handle and they need time to process it. It is possible that these discussions may take weeks, months, years, and it may not even happen. Remember to progress as fast as the person who is least comfortable with the idea. By doing it this way it gaurantee that you are not moving too fast.
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    Thanks for the advice folks..I'll keep you posted. How about toys? Will they help get her 'open' to the idea? (pun intended)
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    toys in the general sense no but they can be used in the roleplaying way to simulate a 2nd partner while you 2 are doing it. I don`t think they are a gateway to the real thing.
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