Sex question

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by misc1234, May 12, 2007.

  1. misc1234

    misc1234 New Member

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    me and my girlfriend just decided to try having sex for our first time, we are both still virgins, when we play around i get errect, for a long period of time, when i get head, i can last forever, like 30+ minutes on a bad day, i dont know how long it takes the average person, but it has now come to having sex, i was hard then we went to put the condom on and then it went all soft and i couldnt get it back up agiain, no matter what i tried or thought, its happened twice now, i need to be able to keep it up for penitration, but i never can, ive been ready for sex mentaly for ages now,,, but now its come to the time,,, i cant do it,, what can i do to make it stay harder through these times
     
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    It's just nerves. You might try cutting down foreplay a little so the condom goes on sooner. Try not to think about what happened before and keep trying and it will pass.
     
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    alright, so basicly forget about it, and just take it as it comes?

    also,, how long on average would a first time person take before he would come?
     
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    Time to cum for a guy varies. In general when you are new the sensations of being inside a woman are overwhelming and you might cum in couple of minutes. There are exceptions but in general the more experience a guy gets the better his control is. If you lasted 30 minutes off a blow you sound like you have great control.
     
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    The more pressure you put on yourself, the more chance there will be of it happening again. It's just nerves, as already said.

    As for how long a person lasts, it varies to much to say. Personally, I lasted a few thrusts when my wife and I first had sex. But I recovered quickly, and was able to go twice more that night and 3 more times the next day, lasting much longer than the first time.

    Don't worry so much about how long you'll last. It's your first time, you can't expect to be a porn star right out of the gate. :) Just relax and enjoy your time together, that's what's really important.
     
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    Hapend To Me That A Couple Of Times And It Is Because Your Thinking About It Too Much Condoms Are A Big Turn Off Anyway
     
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    The limp penis thing is pretty damn common, I would think. Make the condom a part of foreplay, it helps infinitely.

    As for lasting, I am going to sound like a broken record, or a bad infomercial, but you can 'last,' for as long as you want; you can have an orgasm without ejaculation. Some info here, though you'll likely need a book with some more information:

    http://www.whitelotuseast.com/MultipleOrgasm.htm
     
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    i hate condoms.

    really i do...so i sympathize. but don't worry how long you will last. with a condom the sensation of sex is not as powerful, so you will last longer automatically due to that. a good freind of mine lost his virginity...he lasted 5 min. i lasted like 3 my first time :p but can now gow for up to 40 min of intercourse, so don't think of your first few times as a sign of how you will be. let your gf know that too, so she does not think you are lame :lol
    by the way, my first 3 times trying to use a condom failed just as you described, i just got over it (though i still hate them).
     
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    I am still a virgin and this is part of the reason why. I had a chance (one night stand type of thing) i mean first it started off all nice and she was giving me head and what not then im hard but as soon as we get the condom out i go totally limp and ruined the whole thing. This was about 2 or 3 years ago now. And ive basically been to ashamed to admit it and scared as hell it will happen again.

    I feel for you lol hope all goes well...atleast u got a gf to keep trying with im def glad to hear its not a big deal tho.
     
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    mmmm you need to relax a lil i think, maybe if this is happening, try not to think of how the chick might judge you, i think you just have alot on your mind maybe, just relax, that is all i can think of that helps
     
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    Ok man,

    I would say the reason your going soft is its different from normal foreplay, and the pressure is on you, so your thinking about it. Try putting on some music, anything you like. Something soft is nice, an a nice beat. Try not to be too serious with sex, just relax an have fun. Laugh, sex isnt a chore. Alternivly if you wanted to get hard again easier, get her to play with your balls, or some lube on hr finger and rub your anus.

    Works man,
     
  12. misc1234

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    thanks for the reply all, hopefully it will work out for me some day soon
     
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    Just learn how to put the condom on quickly. Just practice alone with a few condoms until you get it right.

    Make sure if you put the wrong end over the head of your penis, you toss the condom. Because you don't want any precum on the outside of the condom.

    Focus on kissing the whole time.. you should be able to put the condom on without looking when you are used to it.

    So while you are putting the condom on, keep kissing your g/f deeply, focus on how warm, wet and soft her mouth feels. This will take your focus off of the whole condom issue and the kissing will keep you hard. Have her climb on top of you and keep kissing each other as she puts you inside her.

    Keep the focus on kissing each other from the time you put the condom on, until a few minutes of her riding you.