Sex going downhill HELP!!!

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  1. The_Cone

    The_Cone New Member

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    I have been with my partner for about 7 months, we are both very horny people and have sex once every night/day we are together (about 5-6 times a week), however sex is becoming unfullfilling and samey. We always end up in the same position, and because he is on top he gets tired quickly and easily which therefore causes us to stop, which then leads to me going dry and him going flacid. I have noticed that after only a few moments his dick goes limp if we're swapping positions or we have stopped... I wish I knew how to turn him on more.

    How can we make it better? We have tried different positions, and I have tried different things like grabbing his balls and feeling his body, but it just seems more and more difficult to cum each time we have sex now, and we both know it.

    I love him, I don't want sex to get boring as it's such a huge part of our relationship and I want to spice things up between us, please help!!
     
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    Same situation here but after 10 years! 7 months and already bored huh? Thats no good. I think watching porn together helps us a little bit. The main thing here is communication! Just talk to him. He may have ideas as well. Just do me and him a favor and dont dismiss his ideas and include yours as well. Its no fun when its one sided. From me this is much easier said than done. I have a really hard time communicating these things to my SO. Here are a few ideas: Porn, mutual masturbation, use toys, different places, be spontaneous(alot of our problem is the same place same time same positions issue).
    I suggest you suprise him. Being a guy I think it would hot to come home walk in the bedroom to my SO naked touching herself beggin for me to take her. Just have fun with it guys are very visual creatures. I just wish my SO was on here asking the questions you are! LOL
     
  3. HardRocker

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    If he gets tired that easily, is he badly out of shape? I find the more exercise I get, the more staying power I have. Too much cigarettes and/or alcohol, as well as many prescription meds can cause those problems for a man too.
    Read some books or watch some self-help videos about improving your sex life, there are plenty of those.
     
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    5-6 times per week times 7 months is too often for sex to be new, exciting and challenging each time, regardless of age and how long you have been together. I suggest you try to build on the non-sexual part of your relationship, and let the sexual part take a back seat down to 2 or 3 times a week. You will strengthen your relationship, and the anticipation will make the wait worthwhile.
     
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    Agree again with cbrmale.
    Sexual marathons soon leaves a guy jaded not to mention exhausted.
    I'm not surprised that your guy goes flat after a little while; he's run out of juice.
    As mentioned previously work on other aspects of your relationship and even with sex try out some sessions with rules such as no touching and others with some sensory deprivations eg blindfolded.
    These will sharpen the desire and make it better for the no hands barred occasions.
    Understand that whilst some women have almost unlimited sexual appetite and are able to orgasm repeatedly, in contrast for the male each event involved some fluid & cellular emission which need to be manufactured by his body and there is no bottomless pit of reserve.
     
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    why don't you make him get you off first, or get yourself off while he kisses and caresses you or even just watches watches
     
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    Talk about a little variety in your routine. Break routines! And enjoy other things outside of sex too1
     
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    Wait until you've been together 25 years if you want to experience real boredom.