sex drive finally degrading ?

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  1. the_traveler

    the_traveler New Member

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    as i've said before i've been taking 200 mg zoloft as part of attempt to eliminate my sex drive, after reaching a conclusion that it's part of a disorder.
    i believe it's working, when i lay back in the morning, i find myself much less prone to look at porn , or to do "it", it's like i've grown detached from the need. as a result i can actually get to work on time ,instead of always feeling guilty of being late (although some folks say i look like a zombie, or sedated at times, althouh it could be due to re-bound of concerta i'm taking as well..)
    but i also wonder, is is becouse i've grown old, that in 34 years old, sex drive decreases.
    or could it be that mind finally cornered itself into admission that there is no possible situation i can be intimiate with a woman, and thus no longer searches for triggers.
    but i still feel the urge the look at attractive woman, and to see if they are wearing heels, i wonder if that will ever go away. ;(
     
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    Let me get this straight.....
    Your taking drugs to kill your sex drive so that your not late for work???
    Have you actually been diagnosed with any sort of "disorder"?:shrug

    I hope your getting advice from a professional about this....:ugh
     
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    Just realised I got a problem too.
    Always late and thinking sex!
     
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    i'm taking drugs, to kill my sex drive so i could be more efficient in my day, (meaning i could be more driven, not waste time like going to a gym to be more muscular hoping i could get girls , or watch porn etc...)
    and yes, i am seeing a pro who diagnosed me with ADD,NVLD and OCD (actually several pro's, each one with their own disorder), that's how i got the drugs.
    and yes one suggused to work on my social difficiencies, but i refsued since i believe that is something that should evolve naturally if anything.
     
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    Call me simplistic but getting laid repeatedly by a horny woman has got to be better than taking Zoloft to kill the urge.
    I totally disagree on your assumption that certain social inadequacies will work themselves out, such thinking ensures they continue unresolved.
    Sorry mate for being so tough on you but it is really up to you to pull up your bootstraps and face your demons.
    One little step at a time is how..........but drugs nah; a cop out!
    I might get blasted by others on this but that is truely how I see the reality.
     
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    I'll let ya know


    Not your age,it's your medication...
    I'm close to your age and horny,constantly.
    I know guys sex drives gets a little less as they get older,but not that much at 34...
    There are other SSRI'S which may not effect your sex drive as much.
    I have been on quite a few.Lexapro and Paxil really did my sex drive in,
    but Prozac doesn't seem to do that as much to me.
    If you need meds you could always ask to try something else.
    Most doctors are pretty sympathetic to those wanting to have a sex drive.
    Mine told me if I had any problems she would switch me.
     
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    Itls called being a MALE.

    You should continue the gym for your health if nothing else. I don't find the gym a waste of time. Porn has it's place and time, just needs a little self control.

    I'm 46 and my drive is as strong as ever. If it wasn't for the kids activities, we'd still be doing it 5 or 6 times a week, but with work, being in an ice rink till 11pm a couple of nights a week and in separate cities with games on the weekend, we manage 2 to 4 times a week.
     
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    so it IS the meds !, awesome! now if only they could stop my urge to rip out my finger tips (which was the original intent against OCD ticks), why would i wanna replace it?
    why do you think it's a cop out? i'm not exactly sure i WANT to have sex, for example the thinking about kissing freaks me out completlely, not to mention touching a gir's body is more then intimdating, in real life, i don't hug anyone, relatives or what not.
    what's more i have never been on ANY relationship with ANY girl, ever, i never dated, i never picked one up. none ZERO.
    also on the single occasion i had 2 escort girls with goggles experiment, even though they suggested to touch me, i was reluctent, although meybe due to the brain zaps but also something else prevented me (they said trying to convice me , felt like they are trying to "rape" new expireince for them).
    so on one hand i feel an attraction looking at girls, but that maybe due to a chemical trigger.
    what's more, even thought i cannot have a realtionship, i mortified of having one with a girl i'm not attracrted to , which displays me as being shallow, and having to lie to her.
    it's like 90% of me i all directed to computers, developing, and other stuff i like,and only 10% are .. off,
    even masterbation i do diffrently, i didn't even know it was called like that, becouse i found out about my accident, i do it by pullling myself forward and backwards on bed, fighting not to climax (once i could go an hour, used to be an exercise on it's on, had me sweating).
    going go the gym will destory everything else, my mental health included, my borther's wife, think it's tragic that i've gained so much after spending so much time and money loosing it, but only now i've realize that i was focused on trying to loose wheight i couldn't do anything else, i kept worrying on when to eat, how to eat, when is the next exercise, what if i get injured, what if i get it wrong, what if ...

    so what kind of girl would want to have sex, (on her own free will) with a 34 year old guy who has no expireince in ANYTHING, no knowledge on the outside world, no stamina, and not looks
    so what if i'm talll and a little funny.

    i'm NOT feeling sorry for myself, even though it looks like it, it's just, i don't even know how to put it in right words.
     
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    your intimidation can almost be totally explained by your LACK of exercise. working out and eating properly INCREASES Testosterone levels in the male body. Testosterone is REQUIRED to stimulate libido. As far as actually talking yourself into a piece, when your body is ready, your dick will tell your mouth what to say:) So lay off the drugs, get off the computer, hit the gym and get some pussy.
     
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    "Mad TV Bob Newhart Skit" STOP IT!
     
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    wtf? i am totally confused by this thread.
     
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    So do I.
     
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    Wow, you sound really torn up about your situation - sorry to hear the therapy experience hasn't been more helpful to you (I'm a psych major, and I totally know what you mean about how every pro has his own disorder.) Hope you get to a more comfortable way of thinking/feeling about yourself soon. Have you asked any of your psych people about local support groups?

    And no, I don't think that curiosity/interest in women is ever going to go away, no matter how much you don't want a relationship. Just one more thing you'll have to make peace with. Best of luck!
     
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    First I would like to know if you have wife or girlfriend, because having if you are active in sex it can also have a chance to decrease your sex drive and also the age affect your sex drive. In this case maybe you should now start taking supplement and in moderate way.