Sex and those with special needs.

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Hot Wheels, May 17, 2011.

  1. Hot Wheels

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    After seeing this recently, it got me thinking.....with so many disabled out there.....wether it be mentally, physically or both.....how do those who are disabled in in some form come to grips with their sexual being?
    In many ways, they are forgotten by those of us who are able-bodied and have what most would call a "normal" sex life.
    This is the story of somebody who cares for those of us who may not be considered as fortunate as we are.
    How many here have had any experience with disabled friends or family?

    Sex and the disability - touching tale hits festival's silver screen
     
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    I've been trying to figure this out myself. Many of you know I have a daughter who will probably always be 4 ish mentally. So do I look at her actual age or her mental age to gauge this one. So hard. My protective motherly instict tells me to look to her mental age, to do whats appropriate for her brain.
    Right now its not an issue, but my answer is to look to whats right for the mental age of the individual, rather than grouping all together under a right or wrong umbrella.
    My answer might change as she grows older, but I can't see it happening.
     
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    My best friend and business partner has a 14 yr old son with CP and we have had many conversations about this exact issue. Thank you so much for putting this link here as he was not aware of this movie. His son is going through extreme pubery now and is unable to talk, walk or use his hands. He does however get intense erections that obviously would be taken care of by a healthy boy. I feel terrible for him and you can go down many legal and moral roads about this.
     
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    Good on you HW for bringing this issue to our attention.
    I know that there are some very kind & understanding women who will take care of the sexual needs of people in such circumstaces.
    To be they are the real social workers.
    Nurses get paid for their caring and so it is only fitting that they are as well.
     
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    Just a thought..........would you make the same decision if it was your daughter, as opposed to your son....

    I mean, do we view the sexual needs of our sons differently to our daughters, would this couple have hired a male escort of the same ilk for their daughter?

    Just a question...
     
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