I know that sex and stress definitely don't mix. My boyfriend has been stressed over his university courses for a while now. I wish that I could help him destress more but some days there's not much that I can do. He doesn't always have an easy time sharing his negative feelings with me. He will share them, it just takes time. Because of the stress he's been sleeping a lot more which as a result means that things in the bedroom have been very tame. I know logically that he's not rejecting me sexually at all; but emotionally it feels that way. Why can't my emotions line up with what I know logically? I support him in all that he does and am always there to listen. He gets distant when he's stressed which doesn't help; but I know he'll talk when he's ready. Lately, when we do something in the bedroom he's the one who orgasms not me which has left me very sexually frustrated. I hope I don't sound like I'm complaining because we have a wonderful relationship. I just needed to vent regarding this. Even when I do something solo, it doesn't get rid of the frustration. Maybe it's best that I don't instigate anything when he's stressed so that he doesn't feel obligated to try to please me. Maybe, I'm being selfish for even wanting sex when he's stressed. I think the frustration stems from wanting to be intimately close to him and not having that expectation met. The stress always has a way of dissipating later on. I hate seeing him stressed and feeling powerless to help him. He tells me that I make him happy just by being there. That's all I can do really. Please share your experiences with sex and stress.