Please note that this thread splintered off the Sex and Childbirth thread. My wife read the links and she thought them rubbish, and she's the one who gave birth twice. I also asked my my sister as well, two children, and she gave a similar response, cramps and bleeding barely noticeable. In any case, the poor soul has a child four months old, and if his wife is having such problems at four months she is in deep trouble! She has time and energy for other activites, we know this, she just has no time or energy for sex with him. And, as I posted, looking after a normal and healthy baby is not as strenuous as many make out. It gets harder later, and still remains hard work when they are teenagers. But I hope she (the wife) isn't using teenagers as an excuse to avoid having sex with him in the years to come! If she loved him, she would find the time and energy to have sex with him. It's simple, really.