SEX advice please

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  1. maryf48

    maryf48 New Member

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    Hi and thanks for reading my post.

    I have always thought of myself as quite experienced in sexual matters and have always thought that I am very good in bed.

    Now I have met someone and I am finding it hard to keep up with him. He can go for hours and hours with foreplay and intercourse and I am finding myself absolutely exhausted after an hour or so. I want to make him happy and I want to keep up with him. All I need is a little bit of rest for half an hour or so and then I can go again, but he wants to go all the time lol. I am beginning to feel very very inadequate.

    He makes me very happy sexually. I have at least four or five orgasms in an hour with him. I try to hold them back, as I am sure they dont help in my quest for stamina, but I just cant stop them.

    Can anyone suggest how I can achieve stamina in the bedroom and keep him happy? This gentleman is a definite keeper.

    Again, thanks for reading :)
     
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    ...Hello and welcome!

    This might sound weird, but maybe make him do more work, and just kick back and enjoy the ride!
     
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    Interesting problem and welcome to the forum. First communicate your frustrations, dont hide them. Like all things in life, practice makes perfect and by that, here, I mean that sex requires energy. Examine your diet and excercise regime. The more fit you are the more you will be able to keep up.
     
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    Sounds like you need to tell him that you need a bit of a rest after an hour or so, I'm sure he won't be offended.
     
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    Thanks for the reply posts :)

    Whilst I admit that I am not as fit as I used to be, being 48 years old and not 28 hehehehe, He is 54 and about as fit as I am.

    I have explained to him that I need a little bit of a rest and he is wonderful and understanding.

    BUT he has also been sleeping with a 36yo and of course the difference between the two of us would be noticable. I guess I just have to accept the fact that I shouldn't worry about keeping him through sex. If he really wants me, he will accept me staminaless and all hahahaha.

    Hugss to you all :)

    By the way........ one question........ on average do men prefer giving women oral rather than the actual act of intercourse? He seems to love giving me oral more than actually entering me. Mind you, he does have a very small penis and when I am very very wet I cannot feel him, so may be tis for the best anyway. He says that I have a tight pussy but I know that I don't, Im not dumb. lol I am curious what you lovely men out there think.
     
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    I have heard that women are using Viagra now, as well as men. REALLY!! Perhaps you could talk to your physician about some stamina-inducing meds for your long sexual encounters with this man.

    Re: oral - I find most guys on this forum absolutely love going down (and staying down) on their woman.
     
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    There is nothing wrong with a rest after a good session :) I would just talk to him and tell him he wears you out and you need a little break. I'm sure he'll understand.

    On the oral question I always do it as something that proceeds intercourse myself. Watching a woman cum works me up and I like to get into the action.
     
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    Oh! Thanks so so much for the reply posts. This is great... just the information I needed.

    Hugssssssssssssssss

    Mary xx
     
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    I agree with the viagra advice and maybe I missed it, but does he take the little blue pill? Maybe a night without it would produce more similar staminas giving you a chance to condition yourself.
     
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    If I had to choose, I'd pick giving oral any day.
     
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    lol NO no he doesnt take any sexual enhancing anything thank goodness!

    :)
     
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    This man enjoys giving oral, but I prefer intercourse for a variety of reasons. First up, it feels nice. Second, it is an intimate joining of two bodies, two hearts and two souls. It is a special, perhaps sacred act, and one which is the consummation and culmination of desire and arousal.
     
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    Sometimes if I'm particularly spent from earlier sex play I'd just as soon stay at the Y and see what kind of wild trip I can give my wife. Other times I really want to give her oral, but she says, "how about just sliding that thing into me," and I can't refuse.
     
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    Do you smoke?

    You could suggest a cigarette break and if you dont maybe you could start?

    lol

    edit...just read he was older!!!!!!!

    xx
     
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    damn girl, i told you not to talk about this in public!!!

    welcome to :sf
     
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    Ha Ha, you're dreamin' Doberman!
     
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    For me, the number one thing that turns me on the most:

    1) getting my woman off.

    there are many other secondary turn-ons: great body, lingerie, behavior, mood, photography, etc. But making my woman cum is the biggest turn-on of all.
     
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    That's good to know. I am always worrying about if my partner is enjoying it too. I keep thinking, does he really like getting me off? lol So thanks :) Makes me feel good now :D
     
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    Before I married my wife,, the woman I dated, we had long sexual play, but wed take breaks inbetween orgasms, we would hug and kiss, give a massage, caress one another and so forth, which always ended up in more sex....it was intmate and kept us both going....with a sort of rest in between the "power sex" so to speak...

    As for preferring oral or intercourse.....I LOVE giving oral, can do it for hours....its a major turn-on for me to be between my wifes thighs and licking her and watching and feeling her reactions to what Im doing..makes for great intercourse afterwards with her sooo turned on from my oral techniques. But I still love IC just as much!! For me its just not a question of which I prefer..cant compare..I LOVE em both in different ways and reasons.:brow
     
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