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    mrskwiggly New Member

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    me and one of my good friends were talking last night. She was telling me that she and her boyfriend (of 1 yr 7mnt.) were having sex and so we got into the conversation. Well being on this topic she told me that she's never had an orgasm. WOW and she can't they've tried toys and her on top him on top side ways this ways that ways and nothing has worked well she's a little bit embarrased to get on here so i told her that i'd do it for her..how can this be prevented? is it medical and if so is it diagnosable?
     
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    Does she masturbate? If she can't orgasm herself she won't know what turns her on so anyone else can "do" her.
     
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    no but i mean they have been having sex for awhile and she'll get close and nothing will happen
     
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    How old is your friend?
     
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    VERY! old hahaha :lol Just kidding. Yea, Masturbation is key if you want to achieve orgasm. It teaches you what gets you off. And why is she embarrased? it's an online community and no one of us would know her?
     
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    has she had sex with anyone else that has made her orgasm,
    if so it is proball your friends fault for not doing it right.
    sex isn't a game of changing positions alone. If one is not
    aroused beforehand, just fucking alone will not do the job.

    but you did not say what their ages are and how experienced
    they are.
     
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    okay no she hasn't had sex with anyone else my friend just turned 20 she thinks its her fault too but i can't say that she's sensitive. so i don't know but they are 20 and 21 so yeah they've only been with each other
     
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    The first thing that pops into my head is "She needs a lesbian lover for an evening." :lol
    No, but she seriously needs to learn how to masturbate. It seems dubious that she is completely "unaware" of what stimulates and arouses her. It is rudimentary to knowing how to achieve orgasm.
    Does she communicate well with her boyfriend during sex? Is she relaxed or is she having performance anxiety? Is she physically attracted to him (I know that seems silly to ask)? Is she comfortable with her body and her body image?
    Sorry, I seem to have more questions than advice. :eyes
     
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    She might have some religious hang-ups she needs to overcome. Or perhaps some abusive experience she's afarid to talk about which is holding her back. "unloading" with a shrink or therapist can help. Or she might just have the wrong guy! Maybe he bores her! And she may need the courage to move on to someone who really turns her key!
     
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    bahaha no she's good they are great i can't answer a lot of your questions Pirouette i'll ask and get back but i know for a fact it's not him and maybe you know it is her body that is bothering her
     
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    Could be hormonal.Gotta loves those.lol
     
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    Someone close to me had religious hang-ups at first, but she also masturbated a lot before she first had sex, and she's was the most orgasmic woman I'd ever had sex when we started. She's just as orgasmic now, of course, but our first experiences are relevant here.

    So going back to our first times together, it seems clear that masturbation is the key.
     
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