I have a question for all of the members here who have been in or are in a long term relationship. Do you go through phases where you would rather get yourself off instead of having actual sex? I've been in a LTR for over 3 years now and lately it seems I've lost a little of my "drive" to have sex with my girlfriend. I'm hoping this is just a phase!! We get along great but the sex is lacking to say the least, she is complaining alot lately that we don't do it enough.