Ok, for those of you that have heard my story before, I apologize for boring you, but here goes... In the past coupla years things have heated up with my husband and I, mostly because I've turned into a sexual dynamo since I turned 40. My basic philosophy is, "If it feels good, do it." Well, once I started feeling that way and wanting to "do it" a LOT more, I realized my hubby and I weren't sexually compatible. To cope with his lack of libido and my outrageous horniness, I took on a few cyber lovers, with my husband's go ahead. He bought me some high end toys to help me get the job done and I admit, I am a lot more satisfied that I could ever imagine, at least as far as masturbation goes. Another issue has been his lack of imagination and his reluctance to dominant me in any way. To deal with that, I've upped the game by inventing some really hot scenarios that we could play out, mostly through the use of dildos and lots of dirty talk. Sounds good so far, huh? Now, we come to a major issue that isn't resolving itself and it's driving me crazy. He has issues with ED and takes Cialis. He still goes limp halfway through sex (foreplay) and gets pissy about it saying it takes me so long to come that is why he loses his stiffy. I've been trying to deal with the feeling of being rushed to come and honestly, it's been a tough row to hoe. I've resorted to using toys quite a bit before he even walks in the bedroom, to get myself on the verge. Sometimes he uses toys on me and I thought he liked it at first, but then I felt like he was just doing it to get me off ASAP so he could mount up and have done with it. Recently, he said he'd rather eat me than use toys all the time. OK, so that sounds good, right? Well, no, because he makes comments on how long it takes me to come during that, too. He wants me to squirt, but complains that it's too tiring for him, as well. So, round and round we go, with me feeling pressured, FINALLY breaking through the mental barrier and orgasming, him jumping on, coming very fast, then leaving the room to clean up or watch sports. I end up getting a toy and giving myself another orgasm just so I can feel "done" and get some sleep. Last night, after messing around all day and getting "primed" for some sex with my hubby, he comes in, skips the hugs, kisses, and caresses (as usual) and goes downtown to get my off. I stat to get into it, moaning and moving my hips, reach for his cock and it's limp. I stroke it until its hard, loosing the momentum of my orgasm in the process. I ask him to shift to a different position because he was just doing a robotic thing with his tongue which is more annoying than arousing. He moves and continues to eat me half heartedly, as his dick goes limp again. I swing my pussy around so I can get him hard with my hand again as he eats me. My clit has given up on the whole orgasm idea and goes to sleep. Finally, I put myself in fantasyland and start thinking of one of my lovers and have an orgasm. I'm going nuts on the bed and before I even get back to breathing normal, hubby is on me, shot his wad and climbed off. THEN he says, "Wow, that was quite the workout, with all the stopping you made me do." I looked at the clock and the whole thing from start to finish has taken about 20 minutes. I am super pissed off and say, "Look, you bitch that I take too long, so I get toys to use. You bitch that you dont' want to use toys all the time, so I let you eat me. Now, you bitch that I take too long to come AGAIN. What the fuck am I supposed to do? How about I just get myself off before you come to bed so you don't have to bother wasting any time on me and my motherfucking orgasm?" He just says something about his comment being a joke. I let him know that it was NOT funny to me and made me feel like shit. He rolls over and we sleep back to back. Oh, and before you mention him taking a different kind of pill, he won't , case closed. Yeah, its' the same old gripe with me, isn't it? I can't win. I don't really expect any advice here, I just needed to write that all down to let off some steam and try to make sense of it all.