Sad and Depressed

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by male_with_ques., Jan 16, 2008.

  1. male_with_ques.

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    I know everyone here is tired of the dick size questions but honostly its a problem many take seriously and we need to help them. I come in at 5 in. length and i too am so sick of the depression its causing me. I often feel like im handicapped in the bedroom because i dont feel i can give a girl what she needs. I KNOW that my sex game is right and i can give it good but sometimes i wonder if i am enough for her. She likes to act like its big or whatever and she even says its bigger than her ex's. She says she gets off but sometimes im not sure. I think if i had three wishes i would waste at least two of them on a bigger penis...thats how bad i want it. I am tired of wondering if i please her and im tired of thinking about what pleasure another guy would give her compared to me and so sick of just imagining the shouts of pleasure my girl would give this big dick bastard. Why me? Why do i have to be so damn small. Is 5 in. even enough to reach the spot? Everyone says it is then why cant i find it? Why could i never get my ex off through sex. Why did i always have to go down on her when i was done? Its horrible but i know my baby loves me and deals with it but i want to be able to give it to her and leave her speechless. I want to be able to give her the most intense orgasms. I simply just want to please my woman the best i can. I bought her a vibrator for a gift and guess which one i got her...yes your right the smaller one cause im afraid the big 7 incher will show her that yes bigger is better. Im so down about it i wish that these commercials really did have a miracle product that could help us. I wish there was a medical procedure that was flawless. I wish i was him..... sorry for going on so much....just my thoughts....
     
  2. cook74

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    Damn man! You do sound pretty cut up about it... All I can say is that it is mostly in your head. Even if you were 4" what's the big deal if your partner still finds it useful. And if by chance you come across a partner that belittles you then it should be their issue not yours.

    There is very little you can do to change the size of your penis. But you can do plenty to learn how to work it to it's full potential and then you might end up being the envy of those that are well endowed.

    And five inches ain't nothing to be sad about either. So you might be a tad below average, if you know what to do with it then size should not be a factor.

    I would just suggest that you become more positive about it because negativity is a downhill ride. In fact it's a fucking avalanche if you let it become one.
     
  3. male_with_ques.

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    Its hard to be positive about this....its hard to think that if your girlfriend does cheat on you she is going to finally realize whats wrong. Shes still young and has only had a few partners. Im so down about it....
     
  4. Puss_in_boots

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    Honey, what a girl definitely doesn't need is having her cervix pounded by a monster cock. It's a very uncomfortable sensation. What a girl doesn't need is a guy who second guesses his own ability to satisfy her. It's true that your girl could be with someone else, but you should be happy about the fact that she's with you. That must mean she really likes you. Also, maybe she thinks there's much more to a relationship than sex. You do know that, don't you?

    And of course there's much MUCH more to having sex than the size of your penis. The average woman's vagina is about five inches long, which also happens to be the same length of the average penis. Mother Nature knew what she was doing. There are some women out there who appreciate a larger penis but I'd say that the percentage of women who want a monster cock is about same as the percentage of men who actually have them.

    So, my advice to you is to learn to work with what you've got. There's a lot more to having sex than pussies and cocks. The only way to truly enlarge your penis is through painful surgery that will end up with you having a penis that's larger than what you body is used to, and you won't be able to get fully hard erections. I'm sure any woman would prefer a nice stiff five incher than an eight inch floppy fish.
     
  5. cook74

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    So if she has had a few partners already she should know that men are built different. Would you think less of her if she had smaller breasts?? You should not judge your partner to be so shallow that she would just jump on the biggest cock available.

    It is the man that makes the cock, not the cock that makes the man. Do your best with it, and with your heart, then there will be no reason for your partner to cheat.
     
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    Wow. I suggest that you seek professional help. You've linked your penis size with your self worth, and apparently, it's just not working out for you. You're not that small, man. I'm sure your SO would be a lot happier with a man that was confident in his own abilities. I mean, how do you pay attention to your girlfriend, with all that worrying? As I said before, just get some professional help. You might not be able to resolve this issue on your own.
     
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    I just want to point out that MOST women cannot orgasm just from having a penis inside of them. So, even if your cock was a few inches longer, doesn't mean that you'd be able to give her mind blowing climaxes with it.

    The clitoris is the key to a woman's climax, and the length of a man's penis isn't going to change that.
     
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    What these two girls said.

    I'd also like to ask: what is the root of this severe insecurity? What or who made you start feeling this way?
     
  9. Bluesy

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    That was such a heart-wrenching post... Sweetie, you actually are average in size. The average range is 5-7". Vaginal nerve-endings are concentrated in the first 2-3" (the g-spot is located approximately 2" into the vagina), and after that there really isn't enough to contribute to an orgasm. Not to mention, 80% of women can't have vaginal orgasms, and the size of the penis makes absolutely no difference. For most women, cunnilingus is a necessity, so work on your oral skills and she'll be a happy camper :)

    Besides all that, I'm sure she's with you because you can offer her something far more precious than what any other guy could give her...she fell for you for a reason.
     
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    99 % don't care

    I hope you realize that most girls aren't really concerned about their partner's penis size. Guys are the ones that care. It is really a myth that women are out looking for the largest dick to hop on. When a guy is really big you just end up sore afterwards. I can sex more often and longer with an averaged sized guy. Just forget about everything you hear in locker rooms and pornos. Most girls are more impressed by flowers and a nice dinner out than a big dick. They are highly overrated. Please believe me...
     
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    Amen, my feline sister. You probably wouldn't be surprised how many times those very words have been given in advice here, and yet they still have a hard time believing it.

    Probably about 1% of the male population have monster cocks, so it works out just fine that about 1% of women prefer monster cocks.
     
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    5 inches would be fine with me. BUT if you keep believing you are not enough for her eventually you may convince her of the same. You don't need a massive cock to be an amazing lover but you are never going to be an amazing lover unless you work on believing that.
     
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    I don't even have to add to all the good replies.

    Any real woman will love what you have. However, I am concerned about you mental state and lack of confidence. A man's confidence will excite a woman more than anything else. If you know how to please a woman, then you know you do not need 8" to do it. Most woman do not want their cervix hit, and they certainly do not want stretched out everyday. They might have a fantasy of a monster pounded once in a while, but fantasy is just that. Hell I have that fantasy for my wife even if she doesn't :) That's why we have toys :)


    You need to rethink this, and develope a new attitude. If you think you can, then you will. If you think you are not making the grade, that will project in all areas.

    Confidence is in the mind, and 5" is plenty to work with.
     
  14. cook74

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    :tup What a lame post (My one), just a thumbs up, but what more can I say. Well worded indagroove.
     
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    Two questions, one answer: Because you're not going down on her BEFORE insertion.

    My penis size is on the upper end of the normal scale. If I don't give my woman an orgasm orally before I stick the thing into her, she's not likely to orgasm while it's there either. That's normal, no matter what size your penis happens to be. I've been with quite a few women, and it's most always the same thing. I've given women orgasms who have never had one before, but it's always the tongue that does it, not the penis.

    You don't need a bigger dick and you don't need counseling; you just need to learn to make love to your gf orally. That's easier, cheaper and will work a whole lot better. Become a master of oral sex and your gf will never leave you for better sex. You can take that to the bank.
     
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    I'd have to disagree with you Joe, just on the finer points...Oral, i agree, if done right etc etc. But it is is not the be all and end all (for some women). You can, once you know your partner, masturbate them to climax with your fingers. Just know the area,the speed etc and no tongue involved (although I would much prefer it, it is sometimes out of bounds)
     
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    Just what "spot" do you think you have to hit? Most females have what is called clitoral orgasms. And a womans' clitoris is outside of the vaginal canal altogether!

    *See Above Statement!*
    If you hang around :sf long enough and read up on some of the forums here, you'll learn that if you're in an LT relationship, your woman tends to experience orgasms through 'Love-making' (which involves not only body, but heart & soul) rather than just getting pumped (which involves your tool :eyes).



    Oral sex IS sex! It's one of the most fabulously erotic parts of sex! You can zero in on the clit so easily, and it will drive her wild! Talk about "intense orgasms"! :whoa

    *See Above Statement!*

    Sorry for dissecting your post, but you sound very sincere ... and sincerely misguided in
    #1: what sizes are normal (opposed to Porn garbage)
    #2: what it takes to make a good Lover
    #3: what a woman who loves you really wants & needs

    Hopefully, you'll check out some of the forums already discussing these matters, as I think they'll halp you alot.
    Good luck
     
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    I understand your point of view Bluesy, but I want to correct two points. First up, the average range is less than 5" to more than 6", at 7" long a man is into above-average territory. Think the bell curve, where 80% of men are actually in a very narrow band of size, length and girth-wise.

    Second, the majority of women don't orgasm through vaginal intercourse, which isn't the same as 'can't'. The majority of women can but rarely do, because vaginal intercourse rarely provides the stimulation required. And this is regardless of penis size.
     
  19. Bluesy

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    It's not a POV, these are statistically accurate figures (5-7" being average). If you can show me the study that supports your theory, I'd be happy to reconsider. Frankly, I've seen everything from 5.whatever to 6.whatever categorized as "average", and then up to 7", but I've yet to come across research indicating that less than 5" is "average".

    According to various studies, it's more like a "can't". But I'm sure there are a lot of women who don't experience vaginal O's that could. It's certainly not unheard of for a woman to have sex for 20 years before experiencing her first g-spot orgasm. Sometimes all the planets have to be aligned just so...or variables like arousal, state of mind, penis shape, sexual position, etc.
     
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    I don't know what an accurate number for average size would, under what condition, etc.

    I assume any studies that have been made are about as accurate as election polling.

    But I just wanted to say:

    Good god! I am so tired, SOOOO TAYYEERD, of the focus on penis SIZE!

    It's like the only thing left in modern industrialized nations for a man to define himself, is the anatomy, the sexual organ. That's all that separates him from a woman.

    Come ON, people! Let's get into acting lusty again! Let's use OUR WHOLE BODIES in sex and eroticism.

    Isn't it curious, that when men judge a woman physically, they judge the whole body. One man in a million will be fetishistically focussed enough to be excited and satisfied about sex with a woman, just because she has a really tight pussy. Yet men think women's only concern in the bedroom is the size of their dong.

    Well, dongleheads! Dongle on you!