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Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by zealot447, Jul 14, 2007.
So what is everyones opinion? Ive heard from 1 year all the way to 4.
when the time is right
even when it's 10 years
When were married. Its been statiscally proven that people who cohabitat are more likely to divore when married. For me its a religious and personal belief.
From my own experience...give it time. I basically lived with my ex from the very first night. We both lived on campus and I slept with her every single night of the semester that we were together. As soon as the summer came and we were apart, things went downhill, very fast and we broke up less than a month into the summer/being away from each other.
I agree with beast. Give it time. Relationships with sex too quickly tend to fall apart in my experience.
well, for me its more of shes planning to move bout 5 min away after her first year of college, and once i get through my first year n make management i plan to move out. so we were considering since we would both be closer to colleges and rent would be cut in half.
I am agnostic, which means that I am not convinced that there is a spritual deity or deities. In other words, I am not driven by religious ideology. However, when it comes to marriage, I believe that if someone is special enough to live with, they are special enough to marry. Marriage to me is a comittment to love each other for better or worse, as best as you can manage it.
I am also aware that couples who live together are more likely to break up either during the partnership or if they get married later. My own personal experience was I had a couple of semi-long-term relationships that were never going to be life-long, and then I met someone really special. We got engaged after six weeks and married a few months after that.
Love means different things to different people, but maybe love is when you meet someone who does this to you, and you do something special to her too. Maybe the other thing that helps the decision process is the relationships that don't work, because those relationships with elements missing teach you a lot.
i learned a lot from my last 3... n thats what i tell people... even if it doesnt work out you learn a lot
Thats atheist i believe, agnostic is you dont have a set religious view.
Actually from what ive read and heard, its actually better to live with a person for a bit before you marry them. I believe in this as you will see sides of them you wouldn't see and you can truely see if you two are compatible.
Its definately not something you should rush into, ESPECIALLY at a young age, you think you know everything but you dont know shit to be honest. Just sit back relax and when the time is right it will happen, im sure your thinking sweet i can get pussy 24/7, yeah but you can also get nagged 24/7 and she will get annoyed by the little things you think are normal, not to mention keeping that toilet seat down.:lol
I think it's different for different couples. I'd say a little more than a year would be reasonable, but as I've said, it really is different for all couples.
My fiance and I moved in together after we got engaged. We both wanted to get our of our parents' houses, and we were tired of having do leave and drive home every time we saw each other. Plus we both felt that we wanted to know that we could handle living together 24/7 before we made that commitment forever.
So far so good!
No, that's what religious people would like to believe. Agnostics are open to the concept that there may be spiritual deities wheras atheists have no spiritual belief at all. As an agnostic you don't deny spirituality, but you certainly deny the expression of spirituality through religious dogma.
I don't think there is an answer to that. Each case is different.
Each relationship is differnet... however if your ONLY reason is to reduce rent, look into subsidized housing or on campus living. Being young and in a live in relationship can be REALLY REALLY REALLY tough on school performance and then what happens if she turns out to not be the one? you're stuck in a lease with someone you aren't real comfortable being around or paying the fines to break the lease and then trying to find a new place.
I think moving in together should be about love and a dedication to a lasting relationship, not necissarily about financial ease (although, I do agree that 1 rent instead of 2 is nice.)
Maybe consider roommates of your own? College roommates can often become life long best friends
I agree that it is usually best to wait but me and my now wife moved in together while I was 17 (still in hight school). I am now 22 we are married, have a 9 month old, and literally have no major problems. I am not saying that it we will never split but at the rate we are going we have still yet to have a *real* fight.
It all just depends on you and who you are with. Do not do it before you are comfortable and let her know the same.
true true, but i also have about another 8 months to think about it, i just wanted some outside opinions other than friends
We didnt move in together until a year and a half. I agree with everyone else, don't rush it because the result is almost always a bad one.
My wife came to visit for a week and never left. About the same thing happened with my late wife. (I think they liked the free rent.)
My hubby and I moved in together a month and a half after we started dating and it was the best decision ever. We are now married and have a baby together. I guess it all depends on the relationship and how you are feeling about the commitment at the time because living together is also a commitment and it does requires extra work.