I recently shared with a friend that my wife and I have an open relationship. He had trouble grasping how or why we chose this lifestyle. This conversation came about when I shared with him that I was planning a rendezvous with a woman we both know. His response was “Be careful, you don’t want to get caught.” He assumed that I was being adulterous, but didn’t seem to object. When I told him I had shared this with my wife and that she had encouraged me to pursue this other woman, he was shocked. My question to the group is this. Is it more acceptable to be a cheater that a swinger?