Refractory orgasms

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  1. Firecracker

    Firecracker New Member

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    My boyfriend and I have been able to do this for each other a few times. Nothing like having several orgasms in a row... especially for him. I find just keeping up the stimulation before things "go completely down" seems to do the trick.
     
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    It is much more common for women to have multiple or successive orgasms that it is for guys. I used to be able to do that several times in a session but age and medications have pretty well shot that down.
     
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    It's a bit strange, but my husband just recently started having multiples. It seems he is having dry orgasms and then a final ejaculation/orgasm. He doesn't really know how he's doing it, but he seems to be enjoying it. He says that when he was a young'n he'd just have one and then lost interest in any more fun. Now (he's almost 70), even after an ejaculation, he can be hot to go again in minutes. Don't know what's getting into him, but we've sure been having fun.
     
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    Trixi,
    I started experiencing those just a few years ago -- late 50s. I didn't know what to think either. Sure like them, however. Whew!!!
     
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    Wow, Trixy...your hubby is 70 and not only still having sex but having multiple orgasms? Dayam...there's hope for us all yet!

    BD
     
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    i have two to three on average when i have fun
     
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    That's fantastic.
     
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    That's great Joe. I'll tell him he's not the only one.

    Yes, it certainly is. For his sake, I hope it continues.

    Don't daydream too much Dude. My man has had ED for about 15 years. He doesn't get hard enough for penetration. In fact, he gave up on sex when it started - he was "ashamed." He recently told me he was jacking off by himself all that time. One day, after a couple of drinks he told me he'd like to fuck me one more time before he died. That's all I needed to hear. I convinced him that sex wasn't ALL about penetration. He now takes a Viagra once a week and he CAN penetrate after he takes one. In the meantime, though, we play any way we can just about daily. So any guys out there who have ED or are developing it - don't give up - not if you have a willing partner.
     
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    You're awesome.
     
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    Thank you. Not really so awesome though - just a horny old gal.:D
     
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    I am beyond THRILLED to read your posts, Trixi. My hubby has similar issues as your's did and sometimes I want to cry because it seems things will never get better. He does take meds but he only lasts for a few strokes, on average.

    Thanks for giving me hope. :bow
     
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    Things can get pretty dicey penetration wise. Sometimes even with the Viagra he can't finish inside and starts to lose the not-so-great erection he gets. He has no trouble cuming though. He says the Viagra is helpful because orgasms feel better when he's harder. The hardest thing of all was convincing him that I wanted him and that it was not a problem for me. Men can be very fragile when this happens to them. Now that he's overcome some of his insecurities about it, he is a much happier person (and so am I). He still feels like I need to get screwed, though, so he likes to use a dildoe on me - I don't mind ;) He has 2 or 3 orgasms a day 2 or 3 times a week (occasionally from penetration, occasionally by my hand or his, but mostly from BJs), and probably averages about 1 a day. Not bad for a guy his age.

    I don't know whether your guy can get physically better, but mentally he can. He needs a lot of reassurance from you with no pressure and he needs to know that his problem only bothers you because it bothers him. My man still needs the reassurance.
     
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