[Ask a Girl] Really want to make it a reality...

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  1. RideNaked2

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    I am new here but everyone seems to be quite helpful..so thought I'd ask you all for some help hints :)

    I want to "shift" myself from a Sub role to a Dom..but can't seem to quite get there. I am able to start (somewhat) but not totally "let go".

    T and I have discussed this many times over the past 10 years. I would just like to have some other ideas/thoughts/hints and so on.

    Thanks
    R
     
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    It takes two. How is T at shifting to the sub role?
     
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    He has NO problem shifting. He is somewhat of a "switch"..his words.
     
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    Thought I would bump this thread as it seems to have got lost amongst traffic here.

    To what level of Dom do you want to go? would it be a permanent role swap?

    I'm no Dom but a good start is him not doing anything until he is told. Tell him exactly how to lay on the bed or sit on the couch. Tell him where to put his hands. Maybe even physically grab them and put them wherever for example on your ass and telling him to squeeze tightly. If he moves his hands put them back to where they were and say "I didn't say you could move them" .. anyway that's a mild start.

    Also think in your head that he is there for your pleasure. You're in control.
     
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    I am able to think these things in my head. The problem comes when I try to get these commands to my mouth :eyes I can think of many things, just have problems vocalizing them :( I at times can even start "somewhat" but then something in my head goes off and says WTF am I doing/saying? I just can't let that release go within my head.

    I'm wondering if maybe I need to make myself a "tool box" of sorts with toys, clothes, commands, stuff like that? Maybe I need to ??? dress more the part???

    UGH, I'm so frustrated that I can't make my voice say what I am thinking. If that makes any sense?:eyes:ugh
     
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    You. Me. My Hubby. Cam/Voice chat Tomorrow Night best time for you after 5pm (when he gets home)
     
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    You are on! Are you referring to your 5pm or mine :eyes? Message me and let me know :) :p:D
     
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    Oh crap that's right. We're in a different time zone lol