Really? A Size Question?!

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  1. 10_3XL

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    I know - these are the most common thing on the internet when it comes to sex/adult message boards. You'll forgive me, but I need (okay, don't need but want) some thoughts and feedback. Don't worry - nothing to do with "does size matter" or asking people to "check out my dick."

    The question: For those gentlemen out there that are in the Larger Than Average category of penis size - what is the best way to present yourself so that you don't get a "No" when The Time finally comes around with a partner? Take it out and act like it's nothing? Give forewarning? What's the best "strategy" for that particular moment?

    Both men and women are free to answer (or tell me to shut the hell up about size matters) as they see fit. :)
     
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    So what's the best way (for a guy with a big cock) to present himself in a sexual encounter or is it better to warn their partner prior to their sexual encounter?

    I think a gentle hand placement on their crotch when they're aroused would be enough considering how close the relationship was.
     
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  3. ginger

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    ive never had this problem its obvious when I take my shoes off and my dick is tucked in the top of my sock that's its gona be a rocking night :eek:
     
  4. JonJo

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    And that's why a man should always take his socks off, both if his bollocks are tucked in the other :D
     
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    Serious answer;
    I would have hoped if things had got that far that by her using Untamed method she would have found out for herself.
    Following obviously the presence of something 'different' being felt during 'close contact', call it, maybe, a form of natures warning.
    Then she either backs-off (unknown :)) or her curiosity/excitement takes it from there.

    Hint: If going on a date with a girl who you're not sure how she will react to an erection but who you know you are going to 'react' to; either wear strong socks, a la Ginger, or two pairs of underwear :rolleyes:
     
  6. AGFUNK

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    I'd go with Untamed's idea. I personally wouldn't like a forewarning. If she pulls away you can always ease in.
     
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  7. Cappy_Dick

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    Actually this is quite a legitimate question. One that I had to discover the right answer for myself, as there was no internet in the 1980's and every guy who wrote to magazine forums had 8" or more. My ancestors come from Eastern Europe, so I am very much a grower, not a show-er. When flaccid the poor thing looks pitifully small, even though it's in the upper 5% erect. I didn't know that then and I actually had quite a complex that I didn't measure up.

    As I became sexually active, I started to hear different from the ladies. I thought it was just patronizing as most women realize it strokes a man's ego to praise his equipment. Though I got much praise and never a complaint, I still thought I didn't have anything special. I had only had a handful of lovers, still rather young, before I married my ex-wife. Even though she had claimed to have had a lover with 9" (something I later learned was just another one of her manipulative bullshit stories), she always praised my big cock.

    It was after she left me for material greed that I began to realize different. Before she had ran out, she had painted an awful picture of me behind my back, to justify the evil crap she did with her departure. One day I got in to a conversation outside of the school with her best friend before she left. Her friend asked me all kinds of questions about what had happened. She called me later that day and asked me to come over. Her and her husband had known her whole evil plot, but they had never said anything, as she had convinced them that I was an evil person. But, having talked to me at the school, she had realized that things just didn't add up and that we had all been had. I learned the truth about many things that evening that aren't relevant to this topic, but one thing was that started to change my way of thinking... She had asked the ex why if I was the person she made me out to be, that she was still fucking me every night. Her answer was "I'm not giving up that big beautiful cock 'til I leave".

    After that, I went without for about three months, as the whole business just left me temporarily uninterested in sex and women emotionally. But, nature took over and soon I was back to normal. The first three lovers I had, had both been with men that had a reputation for being big. Two were rather apprehensive before letting me inside the first time. The other, while being introduced by a mutual friend at my place, I was having a lounge on the sofa after dinner and she asked if she could sit and watch TV with me. I hadn't had any in a few days and her ass against my crotch only helped solidify matters. She watched a couple looney toons with me and then went back into the kitchen to help our friend who had made dinner for us all. She had to leave soon after. I sat and chatted over beers with our friend in the kitchen. She told me that her friend had told her before she left "oh my he's huge". "I'm gonna have to fuck him once I know him a little better".

    Anyway, let's get to the moral of the stories and the questions at hand. Guy's, if you are 7.5" or more, you're pretty big and only 2-3 out of 100 guys are likely to be bigger. Even if you are 7", you're still pretty big and maybe only 15 out of 100 are bigger. The highest percentage of men are 5-6", which is average. That said, if you are 7'' or more, you will be one of the biggest, if not the biggest she has ever saw outside of porn. BBC is a myth, as erect average sizes only vary about two tenths of an inch from that of Caucasian men.

    With this in mind, tact and patience are your best friends. Boasting that you have a big cock is a turn off to most women. It might eventually get you laid, but it's not the way to go. It doesn't attract quality. The truth is most women are much more concerned with the mental and the "g rated" physical attraction and as long as you're not packing a "Vienna Sausage" or "Godzilla", they are usually OK with what you have. So, when you are getting to know someone new you shouldn't bring it up, unless on odd chance you are directly asked.

    However, when things are VERY obviously leading to sexual activity to the point you are talking about it, is a good time to bring it up casually. Let's face it... You really should have at least a brief discussion about sex, before having it with someone new. Use tact and even a little bit of humor. Ultimately, you need to find a line that suits your personality and sense of humor. In the usual discussion about safety, likes/dislikes and things to try, I will slip in the line "I'm a bit larger than the average bear, I hope you don't mind". (humor borrowed from Yogi Bear) Said in this humorous and non-boastful way, I have never had a negative reaction and it usually reduces the anxiety of a partner who will actually be seeing one that isn't average or small for the first time. Letting them know ahead of time in a humorous/non-boastful way can sometimes speed things with those women that are experienced with the "bonus", or curious to experience it.

    Again, use your own style and brand of humor. Don't forget timing and tact. "Sell" yourself first.

    xx
     
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  8. Trond

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    I'm well above average, but I'm pretty tall too, so I guess most girls assume I will be large in general. Never thought about giving any warning, not that I have been with that many women.

    But there is a little bit of a problem: I'm simply too big for my wife. Even so, I think most women prefer to either see for themselves or not go there at all, rather than a guy going "I should probably warn you that I'm scary huge" :D
     
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    I think the best warning is none at all. I prefer seeing for myself.
     
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    A woman should have subtle ways of finds these things out. Of course.. there are not so subtle ways too.
     
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    This reminds me of a joke I heard years ago. This guy was talking to a woman in a bar and one thing led to another and they go back to her place. The girl hadn't had too many lovers and asked him to be gentle that she was pretty tight. He assured her he would be and admitted that he was hung like a baby. After a lot of of playing around he stood up and removed his trousers and she as astounded by what she saw! She exclaimed "Oh my gosh! I thought you said you were hung like a baby!" and he replied "Yes. Eight and a half pounds and 18 inches long!"
     
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    Personally, I'm a little surprised at the lady's answers and Trond chiming in, in agreement. Before I came up with my humorous line that I always work into the talk, before first time sex, I had several experiences where the lady involved got a bit nervous and reluctant the first time my pants came off. while I was never refused in the end, there were times that I had to put a lot of effort into encouragement and reassurance into getting there. So, I thought mentioning it in a lighthearted way during "the talk" was the way to handle it. I never had an issue with the topic at had doing that, but maybe I should re-think this?

    xx
     
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    The question almost sounds like the woman isn't going to see the man's penis until a moment before he's going to insert it. Why does she need to say no or pull away the first time she sees it? By the time it's that close to her, why hasn't she already seen it, handled it, oohed and aahed over it, discussed how she would like it, and so on?
     
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    Yeah, good point Meee you gotto barbecue the sausage before putting it between two slices for consumption.
     
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    Because (thanks to conditioning since age 12) in my head every sexual encounter is a scene from a porno movie. :p ;)
     
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    The question wasn't about seeing it just before insertion but the first times she's going to see it in a sexual encounter; which might be the time she pulls away/backs off before things can proceed further.
     
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    I think you just handle the situation like two adults. Would a woman have to warn a guy that she's on the tighter side? Or that she's not on the tighter side? Or whatever? No. You just have sex and adapt to one another as you go. If a guys size is a bit much, then there are many many things a couple can do together sexually . If it doesn't fit, then it doesn't fit. If she doesn't want to try and have sex with you , then simply be respectful ... And please her on other ways. If you're in a relationship, then over time she will adapt to your size...( most of the time).. But I definately would not talk about " size" before hand. I would think that would put off any woman. My 2 cents
     
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    I'm not sure what's larger than the average size but most women say I'm large. I measure my length at almost 8 inches, but I've never had a woman complain that I'm too big. I have slept with a few size queens and they handled me with no problem, which tells me that I'm not cursed.

    So what I'm basically saying is, it must suck to be too big as well as too small.
     
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    I think the biggest thing (pun sort of intended) isn't necessarily length so much as girth. My query was really with length/girth both being "more than average" (which is 4-6 inches long and about 5 around apparently).
     
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    Perhaps I should post a dick pic! lol