My dh and have been together a total of almost 8 yrs. He started off hinting that he wants anal sex. We did it once or twice. I get no pleasure whatsoever from that. I hate it! He complains that he wants it and I won't give. I had 3 kids and my rectum literally ripped when I had my 2nd child and bleeds occasionally (sorry if gross) I just won't. My dh has also been hinting that he wants me to lick or stick my finger(s) in his rectum while I perform oral sex. Well I did that for him. He's the thing...It grossed me out. We have a vibrating dildo and he wanted me to screw him with it while I gave him oral sex. He loved it. It was gross and it smelled while I was down there. I don't ever want to do this again. I just can't bear it. Anyway, after it was over he asked me if I am going to make fun of him or accuse him of being gay,,,I said and meant no to both ?'s. However, I am grossed out and dread him asking for that again.